We are at $14,000 raised for Jon as of this morning. I would expect most people to come back online Monday to see the link for the first time. Please pm your Ferrarichat friends to make sure they are aware of the tragedy and our efforts for support. Thank you. Robb
I have updated my signature with the link to the gofundme page to support Jon's recovery. So if readers see my posts elsewhere, they can quickly see where they can go to support the cause. Thanks again for the support from the group and making a difference. Robb
+1. I appreciate that everyone's concerned but some of the comments speculating and prying into that are in extremely poor taste, imho. Let's just see what we can do to help Jon through this and when he is ready, he can ask the group for help regarding Amanda's situation. Our relationship is with Jon and that's where our comments should start and finish. i am sure that Amanda's colleagues and friends know that we are concerned and ready to help but let them have their time to come to peace with it all. As nice as it is and as concerned as we all are, it is just not our place.
Will the Amanda fund be rolled in to the Jon fund or will we be getting refunds so we can redonate to Jon...I hope so
Let me know how much your donation was and I will refund it. That way you don't come across as uncaring and portray your self in a bad light, it will be our little secret.
Kim, I respectfully don't need your refund or your misinterpretation of my comment. As the son of a tireless fundraiser for cancer research, I can assure you that my concern and hope that the donations go where they are appreciated and needed most, is extremely caring. When a donation is given it is fundamentally correct to know where it goes. And if our efforts were shut down, we should be given the opportunity to "redonate", as I said, to the cause of our choice. If you would have read carefully, instead of jumping to a conclusion, you would have seen a refund wasn't asked for to return to my pocket, it was in the hope that all the money may be used by Jon, our colleague on this forum...
Update: the fund that a colleague set up 'the help Amanda 's kids' gofundme has just been put on pause while control has been passed to her Sister for Administration. I'm sure the group can understand the monumental tasks they have been given and the grief they have been suffering. All money donated that fund is safe and will be heading toward the kids. So until they move through this difficult transition, let's continue to focus on supporting Jon and his recovery. He has another surgery Monday. Let's continue the good karma for his recovery. https://www.gofundme.com/rfx3nbdw# Robb
A fund was setup for the kids and the public was solicited to make donations. When considering a donation, of primary concern was that all monies would go directly to the kids. Thorny items like legal custody, Amanda's will, who is administering the fund, etc. could make a world of difference to where my $ would end up. There are too many stories about how adults squander funds intended for children. My intent was never to get into people's personal lives. The replies received in this thread (and PM) contained far more information than ever asked for. Now that Amanda's family has suspended the kids fund, we should have those posts redacted/deleted to be in alignment with their wishes for privacy. Those wishing to continue casting aspersions may do so via PM. Meanwhile, let's get back to supporting Jon.
Rick, that was not directed at you and don't think that anything you did was untoward so let me be more clear in what I'm saying: there's nothing wrong with asking where your donation is going to go. That's called prudence and everyone should do it. However, to me there is something fundamentally wrong with speculating on the kids relationship with their father, comments like "accepting Jon as dad," etc. when we really don't know anything at all. Again, that's just not our place and I know that if I passed away in a tragic accident and people with no direct knowledge or interaction were speculating on my children and their relationship with anyone, I would not be happy. Amanda's passing is not open license for people to discuss her children and their father, father-figure, or relationships with anyone by people who have no direct relationship with them and can only speculate from afar. When Jon gets better, if he wants to come here and share all of that and other personal information so that we can understand it, that's totally fine and then it becomes something we can discuss collectively because as at that point, to a certain extent, it does become our business. But until then, our business primarily is Jon and we need to focus on supporting him. Amanda's family knows that we want to help and can help and we care deeply. That's enough for now. Let them take the lead and come forward when they're ready (or Jon, like I said). Moving on: I feel absolutely horribly about this in so many ways. A lot of this is new for all of us. There are lots of things that we all want to do to help and to make things better but we have to be careful to not jump the gun. We are already seeing that with the GoFundMe stuff. What's really important is that Jon has a long way to go and this will go on for a while. The shock means that everyone wants to do something right now but if Jon is still in the hospital in 6 months, I hope that we still have this same level of support. If we let things take their course and if everyone can contribute their help in their respective ways at the right time until everything gets sorted, I think that Jon will be better off for it. Again, just my opinion.
Such a tragedy. I've donated. Not to derail the thread, but possession of medical pot prescriptions will be the defense for many DUIs going forward.
My feelings exactly. I met Jon through Fchat, and he was the guiding hand for helping me buy my first Ferrari. What a kind and generous guy. Words cannot express...
I admire what everyone is doing, but for privacy of the kids it would be better to move this thread to a subscribed only section ?
Don't want to derail any conversation any further, but here in New Zealand driving while under the influence of any medication or drug that might impair your driving is a crime. In the event of an accident or erratic behavior, the authorities reserve the right to test whether the driver is driving while impaired by drugs or prescription medication........... Whether cannabis is legal or not, it should be just as much a crime as driving while drunk..... My thoughts go out to Jon and his family at this very sad time.
