gonna ask the g/f to marry me

Lots of good advice from both sides here. I have a question, though. How old is this girl? Most women I know that have their heads on straight didn't get that way til their late 20's. Most of the young ones have absolutely NO CLUE about anything, although they think they do. She may want to be married now, but what about 5 years from now? Another thing you need to ask your self is whether or not she wants to marry you, or just wants to be married. NOT KIDDING. A lot of girls are in love with the idea of marriage rather than the man she is with. I'm not saying she doesn't love you, but listen to what she talks about on the subject. If she talks about you and wanting to be with you to her friends then you may be OK. If all she talks about is the wedding and how everything is going to be "perfect" and how your going to have a house and babies and OMG it's going to be so PERFECT with no mention of your name, time to think about plan B(which is bail).

I had a lot of friends who got married young, teens and early 20's. NONE of them are still together with the exception of one couple, and they fight all the time about the most inane crap. I give them another year or so.

I don't know you, your girl, or your relationship but I have watched others go down this path before and it never ended well. Be careful and be sure this is what you want and not what your girl wants you to want. Good luck.

 

Yeah. Heard it on an infomercial once.

 

Ok this thread has gone long enough and I want to chime in as well. I am with the majority of people thinking NOT to do this for all the same reasons , including the above. I am guilty of it. I am 30 have a solid career position, and a hot 21 yrd old receptionist started....you know the rest...I just couldnt resist...I know I'm not ready. This went sour as the 21yr old was already thinking I am the catch of her life for obvious reasons of previous losers she has dated..but anyways..

I'm a gym freak and see hot women EVERY DAY. Have I been in love-SURE, could I turn these hot young bodies down if I had a chance....ummm.ummm.....most likely not.

And let me add you are on this forum most likely because you are into cars, luxury or more expensive things in life- to ALOT of women its pure BS to them. Not all, but most. Alot of my expensive tastes eventually ruined all my LTR's since I was 21. I bought a set of wheels once and hmmmm how did I know she would freak knowing damn well what kind of ring I could of bought...NEXT.

Next one is a watch. I buy/sell/trade watches a little...oh of course...one of these stupid wrist thingies that just tell time could be a damn 1.5 carat ring!! NEXT.

By the time you get a solid career you will want the sports car, the house, the watch(or other hobby) , the gym time,....you know....dont be the one that gets to 30ish and says "damn I wish I had the chance back then", I know I'm not.

 

going to mass and confession doesn't make you a catholic if you don't really believe in what you're doing.

 

certain catholic values i believe, but not all.

 

you know you'll be damned to an eternity of fire and brimstone for all the times you masturbated....

 

Pretty sound opinion. Marriage can be a good thing if it's the right thing for you, and with the right person. The mistake I've seen friends make is getting married because they felt it would change things. Well, it does. But not always in the way people expect. Marginal relationships don't improve due to marriage, they fracture. And having a kid only multiplies the stakes. What's important to you? Your sex life will be only as healthy as you maintain it, so if she's not that "into it" now, it ain't gonna get better. However...that doesn't have to be the case. This topic always brings out the flood of confirmed bachelors preaching the evils of marriage and how great it is being single. Granted, once married your time will ALWAYS be shared. But I also know a lot of older bachelors who have become lonely and borderline pitiable. The rockstar lifestyle of sex with whomever they wanted washed away years ago with their hairlines along with their tolerance for going out all the time trawling for willing partners. If you're wealthy, then you will have the privilege of hooking up with vacuous gold diggers looking to separate you from your money. They're tons of fun. A dinner and a bang, then what? Plus, their circle of friends blurs a little more every year as they lose commonality with their friends. Married couples gravitate towards each other socially, as do parents.

You have to ask yourself "Is this what I truly want? Is this who I truly want?" If you can honestly answer yes, then maybe it's the right decision.

 

Always remember, commitment is the most important thing in a successful marriage...even more important than love...if you're not willing to commit for life, don't do it...love will rise and fall like the tide, but commitment must remain constant.

 

I'm catholic as well, I stopped going to mass after my Priest became a convicted you know what.

 

did your priest spank you after confession ? lol lol

 

isnt hell filled with hookers, stripers, porn stars,adultresses ,booz, cigarettes, and lust ??? where to buy my ticket....

 

sigh....Pap' house...

 

i bet paps other car is a diablo

 

Heres PAP's "friend" on PAP's bike..
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True, most, but...

"The best available data on paternity testing has come from the United States. There the American Association of Blood Banks, the main regulatory agency, conducts an annual survey of laboratories.... In the most recently published 2003 survey ... there were 354,011 cases of paternity testing, amounting to 0.125 per cent of the US population. Results were provided for 353.387 cases, of which 99,174 - or 28 per cent, were exclusions. That is, 28 per cent of putative fathers were found not to be the biological father."

http://www.childsupportanalysis.co.uk/analysis_and_opinion/choices_and_behaviours/paternity_commentaries.htm