Know any boring pessimistic stubborn people?

I just want to vent/rant.

There is a woman I have known for quite a while - 11 years to be exact. We first met working on a project together. We dated a bit but that's as far as it went and we hadn't kept in touch for 8 years. We finally got back in touch and MY GOD what a bitter hag she turned into. I have NEVER in my life met anyone like this.

When we would talk on the phone, I would literally be yawning and struggling to pay attention as she told me about her sisters life, her fathers job as a copy machine salesmen and the hilarity of his customer sales calls, and exteme detail about the kind of surface finishes she chose when she re-did her kitchen. When it came to work, she was always the victim, fighthing a losing battle against incompetence and was overworked, underpaid, overstressed and unappreciated by everyone who didn't realize what lynchpin of the entire organization she was.

When I tried to get her to talk about herself, she told me she doesn't drink more than 1 glass of wine ever, she has never been even slightly tipsy, she does not go to bars, or clubs, does not eat fast food, or seafood, or red meat. She has never been in trouble (i.e. arrested or questioned by a cop), has never broken any law, has never smoked a cigarette, has never broken the speed limit by more than 5mph. She does not like to travel and finds it a useless pasttime. She thinks I am silly for getting a boat and being excited about taking it out next summer. She thinks spending $$ on a car other than a Prius is wasteful and bad for our planet. She like everything to be the same, does not like change. Does not like skiing as it's dangerous, does not like guns and is 100% sure they should be banned, thinks anyone who would even go target shooting is a redneck oaf who is amused by neanderthal bangs, etc

She is closing in on 40yrs old fast, has no kids, wants kids, is looking for a husband, has the worst phone mannerisms you can imagine (interrupting, talking over, hugely long pauses while she thinks of the best way to explain how she chose the buckle she wanted on the new shoes she looked at).

I have never met someone so pessimistic, cynical, boring and just downright dry.

She would make Ben Stein look like the life of the party. Next to her, that guy in Office Space played by Steven Root would be an entertaining and hilarious conversationalist.

I had to give her the boot. I can't even take her as a friend. I am pretty good on the phone at keeping things lively and entertaining but she was a black hole of depressing pessimism that I could not counter even with every witticism and element of spontaneity I could muster. I would rather be the unpaid volunteer for the 'Catheter Insertion For Doctors With Parkinsons' class than spend any time with her. Given the choice of being the guy collecting road-kill in Florida in the middle of July on the road overflowing with departed fauna, I would GLADLY do the job without gloves and only a pitchfork for lifting and an enclosed Dodge Ram Van (with non-opening windows and non-working HVAC) to assist with the transport.

It finally ended when I mentioned a guy I know who recently sold his company and retired in his 40's with enough FU money to last generations. She got upset and lamented at how greedy he obviously was and how "nobody needs that kind of money, its just not fair or helpful to society". When I counted by asking how much is "fair" and who gets to decide (and noted that many would feel her salary of mid 50's is excessive and way more than someone needs to 'get by' and therefore unfair and fodder for redistribution), she got upset and told me I just don't "get it". I had enough, told her we were COMPLETELY different and I wished her well in life.

Its one of the few times I have cut ties with someone and felt FREE, REFRESHED and GOOD! I feel GREAT now. I am amazed at what a weight was hanging around my shoulders. I feel like a dark cloud has moved from above my head!

Ok, rant over - you ever met anyone like this gal? I have never met anyone as far gone. She used to be cool and fun and interesting. I dunno what happened - I knew women sometimes get weird in their late 30's if they haven't met anyone, haven't had a BF in years and haven't gotten laid in years, but she is but a few cats shy of the kook house!

Tell me I am not the only one? I feel like I should boil my ears to sterilize after having had to listen to all that!

 

This chick is so dry, boring and prude-ish that first of all I doubt she even gives 'em, and second I can say with all sincerity that it would NOT be worth the time you'd have to put in to make it happen. The ROI just isnt there. Even if the investment is only 38 seconds of swee-talk, and the BJ is incredible, the ROI *STILL* isnt there!

And that's sayin' somethin!

 

You know I re-read the post thinking maybe I was overly harsh, but I swear to god that is a pretty damned perfect assesment of her. I seriously would not want to set anyone up with this chick because they would call me as he dropped her off to ream me out for doing that to him.

And she's not ugly, not a babe but not a pig either.

She told me she never dated until college, and when I asked about her first date (pretty common question right?) she got pretty pissed off and bull$h!t and told me it was not something she wanted to talk about. I wonder if this chick has ever scored - like - ever! She told me a guy she met once told her on the 2nd date that he wouldn't mind hitting it on a semi-frequent basis but he wasn't interested in being her boyfriend. She chalked it up to him being a player - but now I *TOTALLY* understand. He just could not begin to fathom having to stand her personality even during pillow talk. He just wanted to hit and run and I admire his honesty and agree completely with his assesment.

 

Maybe it was about you Pete?

heh

 

LOL!

I've lived here on and off for around 22 years (with a few years here and there in other places). I don't find people that pessimistic around here; do you?

Why do you ask about WS tix? Is that something these women normally do? She didn't, but she's big into baseball and one of the things she was b*tch*ng and moaning about is how it's impossible to get Sox tickets. I dont see why - a friend got tickets to game 6 against Cleveland and he only got the ticket a couple weeks before and paid face value. Another guy I know had game 7 tix and sold them for $200/ea ($100 face value). This woman told me you have to go to the Sox' website the very day tickets go on sale at 12:01am and click like mad just to get regular season game tickets. I think she's full of ****. I've gone to Fenway and bought tickets for a game on the day or a couple days before. And you can almost always get them online right up to game time practically. Its different when they are in the playoffs but I think she was blowing smoke up my azz.

Go Sox! (tonights the beginning of the end for Colorado!)

 

If Eeyore lived around here I'd hook them up - they could be miserable and bitter together and convince each other the world was out to get them.

When I worked with this woman on the project we were on, she was the first one to shoot down any idea, contradict anything said, complain that any task assigned to her group would leave them overworked and it was not their job, etc. But she always seemed cool outside of work. But I guess she just let it get to her.

She doesn't even travel. She's been to Atlantic City and that's about it. Thinks Vegas is a waste and a bad place for idiots to lose $$, think LA is too weird, never left the USA because shes afraid to, but no problem lecturing me on how the world works and why people in other countries think the way they do, etc.

 

I was really really tempted to do this. But I don't know if I could have done it without just verbally braining her with a spiked mace. When there is so much material there, how do you approach it delicately? This woman is so pessimistic and bitter that I think she would just chalk it up to validation of her view that the world is mean and out to get her.

Interestingly that's one thing she told me - that she assumes people are bad, evil and have bad intentions, whereas I always assume people are inherantly good for the most part unless they go astray. She was telling me about the times she's been stood up, the boyfriends that just left her after 3 dates, etc. I can see why. I think it would be hilarious to hit a bar with these guys and trade stories - I am sure every single one of them feels like they escaped the quicksand of doom, gloom and depression when they bailed from her.