I disagree, I see this as Ashwin wanting to a) make right a wrong, and b) honor the commitment he made to this chick to pay for the damages quickly. So while he won't end up in jail or have his knees broken by the mob, he gets to keep his name/reputation and sleep at night. that's worth a lot. don't get me wrong though, asking for money on the internet is still kinda sketchy.
Yeah, I never dealt with anything like this before. I over-react in situations I'm not used to apparently. I just want out of this situation.
OK here's a poor story-- No money, no credit, flat broke. GF's birthday. I have no money to buy her anything. I find out she used to play the flute in high school. I go to a rental store and rent a flute and wrap it up and give it to her as a present (it was a nice flute). She loved it!! I did end up making the payments and she was none the wiser. WOO!
Dont read me wrong... I know he is trying to do the right thing. I applaud that. My point isnt that he shouldnt try with all his ability to pay the woman. My point is he's now starting to act like its some life or death situation saying 'Im shaking' ...thats ridiculous. At the end of the day if he REALLY wants to make this right he would be selling that Playstation before asking to borrow money. he could get $200 for it instantly on craigslist if he throws in the games. Thats a great deal. I like him. he seems like a good kid. But if hes going to put this out there for all of us to comment on he has to take the good with the bad. I think its ridiculous anyone has sent him money. I think it sends a terrible message to him at an age when he should be learning to deal with issues on his own. not running to mommy, daddy OR the internet.
I think so, he doesn't seem like the prankster type (at least not this type of prank) agree to all of the above.
Alright...PS3 is up for sale @ 250 including everything. I don't do eBay, so it's not going up on eBay or Craigslist. 250 Paypal only.
How many storylines can we cram into one thread? 1) Ashwin needs $$ 2) stories of broke-ass "good old days" 3) hand-me-down socks 4)....?
Query, do you know him personally? If so, and you know him to be serious in his posts, show him the way. I have helped people out financially that I have never met, with promises to pay me back; which of course never happened. And I have given out hundreds, if not thousands, and have been scorned by the 'Debtors' for trying to collect!
Nope, he doesn't know me, but if you consider being friends with someone on facebook, he knows me a little.
I like him too and as I stated in the beginning of this thread, it took some pretty big balls to to start it. Talk about sucking up the pride..........and HERE of all places! I wish him well. Hell, who are we to judge others? We are not him and we don't know every little detail. All I know that if somebody comes to you in earnest for help, do so if you can afford to. You are not judged on what or how much you give in life, but the fact that you gave is what racks up the points. I have been to many funerals during the last ten years and ya wanna know something?, the largest attendance at those services were for those who gave the most during their life. Not just money, but of themselves to others. How many people would you like at your funeral?
We have had conversations but I do not know him 'in person'. But he is active on this forum and thus far has never shown himself to be anything but a good kid. So he gets a lot of slack from me (and others) for that. Whenever I loan money I never expect to get it back. I have more than a few loans out there that , even though the people are now back on their feet, I know I will never get back. I borrowed $10k from a friend once. I was paying him back the $1k per month as we agreed but I sensed some tension. Turns out he was upset that I had enough in cash to pay him back in full yet was still only paying him $1k month. I realized if I was in his shoes I probably would have felt the same way. So I paid him the rest back and unfortuntely our friendship was never quite the same. I realized borrowing money is the very last resort as it ends badly 99% of the time.
I havent really seen anyone judge him or come down harshly. I know I havent. I just have a different opinion than you do and I voice it. I believe we are allowed to voice negative opinons as well as positive ::jab jab:: I have sent money to more than one person on this forum that needed it...I mean NEEDED it. If I felt Ashwins situation was dire I would have paypal'd him instantly. But this situation is utterly ridiculous IMHO. Not getting the money will teach him far more than getting it. And ultimately this situation is more of a lesson than an emergency.
