Just wondering, all opinions more directed at our non-tied up f-chatters, how much does your physical attractivness play a part in life
good or bad it plays a big part. Although what is 'attractive' is HIGHLY subjective Ive always had long hair and dressed kind of 'rocker' because I dont want to be mistaken for some middle management office worker. Image Unavailable, Please Login
In a perfect world, yes. There have been many experiments done where the "good looking" people get treated better than the large or barely pretty people.
^^ TRUE! I live in California, for the most-part, the populace is pretty shallow. This is a judge a book by it's cover kind of people. It's amazing at times, yet sad too. I dress to the nines, look clean cut and people treat me very well. If I dress down casual and I'm treated fair.
Body languange accounts for near 80% of what we communicate to others, so good posture is critical, I find that doing straight arm pull downs and straight arm rows works the Rhomboids which hels make your back straight and gives you great posture How you dress is also important as what you wear denotes your standing in society Women are a lot more cued in than men to look at details like your watch, shoes, fingernails, hair, skin etc Women also pick up body languange a lot better than men do so they'll notice if your body language is good or great A guy who is no Brad Pitt but has excellent body language, dresses well, and knows what to wear can have an advantage over a clueless male model Women tend to go for the whole package rather than just looks like men do
True Confidence shows through in how you carry yourself. Look at someone like George Clooney. He's not THAT good looking...its the confidence and charisma he exudes. I could pass for either a rich musician OR a poor one yet I am always treated well. Restaurants, car dealerships , clubs, etc... because i carry myself with confidence. of course it depends on where you are...in LA there are plenty of millionaires that look like me. In someplace like Miami it wouldnt be the same.
I'm trying for the Colin Clive "mad scientist" look. It's alive! Bwa ha ha ha! (Put the candle back!)
Physical apperance has meant less to me now that i'm married. Don't get me wrong, I always try to look good for my wife. But other than that, who cares how i look.
It's really not what a person looks like - it's how they carry themselves. Confidence is a visible trait, but, arrogance is even more palpable. Either way, whether born "attractive" or "unattractive" or maimed thereafter - appearance can quickly become secondary if you've got the goods to carry you through any obstacle with grace and when ripe for the taking - aplomb. With those positive traits... Sexier and what-not than Brangelina - only "reality" show I'd watch a second time. http://tlc.discovery.com/tv/little-people-just-married/bill-and-jen.html However, if Beyonce and/or Halle showed up on my doorstep, it'd be a very long time before I posted on here again, as I get mesmerized into a dumb-guy trance as it is, already.
Outward appearance is huge in our society. Besides the obvious perks, I even heard that attractive people are more likely to receive jobs, raises, promotions, etc. Pretty shallow, but for some of us that were dealt a bad hand, all we can do is play it the best we can.
Well, I have a few of doctors/surgeons' cards on hand. Does that count? So, what exactly is "confidence" (I mean in a detail example)?
IMO it is being secure in who you are. It's sort of like when someone verbally attacks you... if you get angry and lash out in response, then they probably touched on an insecurity. If I say to someone "you're a broke ass loser!"..... and the person I say it to started his own company, is a millionaire, and well respected in his industry.. is he going to get offended and tell me I'm stupid and ugly in response? Or is he going to laugh? Cockiness is unwarranted confidence. A wise man is secure in what he knows, and also secure in what he doesn't know.
On a bet, I traveled to Asia in a suit, something I had never done before even though I always fly Business Class. I have to admit I lost the bet as I did not think just being in a good suit would do anything. Yet I was amazed that, it seemed, people on a whole treated me about 30% better.
Well, I'm a teenage girl but I might as well add my thoughts to this. People are very hard on womens looks/appearance. Of course, everyones taste differs a bit. What I find though is it seems the more attractive men find me, the more they have to criticize about me actually. "She's pretty but ..." (insert something they don't like on me). It's like...is there really even a compliment in there somewhere? I even had a doctor tell me that I was "gorgeous, but your nose could be a bit smaller". Thanks? He wasn't even a plastic surgeon. I just ignored it though. Not only rude and unprofessional...but he said that to me when I was just 14 at the time. That's a tough time for most girls anyways without the added pressure of not being good enough. I remember people always saying I looked "different , but in a good way". I guess they meant it as a compliment but at that moment it just feels sort of weird. I guess maybe it's my slavic ancestry ..don't know. Anyways, I'm not saying everyone is like those examples but I do believe it is much more important for women to be attractive. I wouldn't say I'm insecure but there are things I would change on myself. I think most people experience that though anyways. As far as clothes go, I dress well a lot of the time. Not fully for other people but for myself. I love true high fashion a lot for all the creativity behind it. I dress casually normally but I am fortunate enough to have some really nice shoes, jeans, tops, jewelry, bags...so I do look put together and stuff. I'm not really sure how my appearance affects me on a daily basis though. I don't really notice too much to be honest.
I found the same thing when I was in grad school. If I was in jeans & T-shirt like every other student versus shirt & tie (had a real job also), the difference was striking. Mainly the difference was in the faculty, that was most surprsing.
It is really about how you carry your self. My first girlfriend was a ballerina who danced with ABT in NY. She taught me a lot about posture and how to carry your self. If you are a guy research has show that it helps to be tall. I am 6ft 1in tall and I think that that has helped me in sales. Facial expressions are important too. Some people go though life with a scowl and people would rather interact with some one that smiles a lot. Clothes send a signal as well. I have spent some money on custom Italian and French suits as well as custom shoes and boots. This investment has paid off many times as I have gotten more clients by people coming up at parties commenting "Where did you get those shoes" Different parts of the country are different as well. Up until 2 years ago I had my hair really long it was 1/2 way down my back. No problem in NYC, Miami,London ect but in the deep south where I live every one thought I was a biker.
Well that's better than "sorry there isn't anything we can do for you." . I look like a bum most of the time and couldn't care less about what other people think. However I know I must be fairly good looking or at least approachable because I get a lot of walk ups when I am out. It pisses my wife off. LOL Not like a dirty bum I am always clean but I think the most expensive piece of clothing I have is ~30 bucks. I don't care about brand names and when I was single and would have a woman approach with 500 dollar pants on I would run in the opposite direction. I am not supporting that type of habit. Right now I am sitting at my desk with a pair of Kona slipper/ shoes on, brown,... black Nike sweat pants from TJMax, a white t shirt and a zip up green fuzzy sweat shirt. Nothing matches all of it's junk but I am comfortable as hell. My wife is at the desk next to me, old navy blue t-shirt that probably 5 years old and red sweat pants. She is also comfortable. We are bums.
Back in the 80's I worked in R&D for a major food company. Most of that time i had long hair and a full beard (not unlike anunakki). One day I shaved off the beard and cut the hair, the immediate change in my credibility (and upward mobility) with managers and engineers that I had known for years was shocking.
