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How many times do you have to say "what?" to your wife?

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Do you find yourself often saying "What?" to your wife?

  1. No, I hear her perfectly fine (congrats on your recent marriage)

  2. Occasionally, but no biggy

  3. Fairly often

  4. OH MY GOD does that describe my wife!! Hate it, drives me nuts!

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  1. Steve R

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    #1 Steve R, Feb 15, 2006
    I think the title is self-descriptive. My wife speaks softly, despite my hearing being checked and proven to be above average, I still find myself regularly having to ask her to repeat herself. "What", "I can't hear you", "I can barely hear what you are saying", "could you repeat that"....it sometimes gets so irritating that I get annoyed and it ruins moments.

    Am I alone or is this par for the course?

    My real theory is that their laziness imposes us to work harder...thus explaining why men die younger and woman live longer. Just a theory....
     
  2. rammsteinmatt

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    #2 rammsteinmatt, Feb 15, 2006
    i have far above average hearing, but if there is a radio, tv or other noise source in the background, it is nearly impossible to comprehend what someone is saying.
     
  3. Etcetera

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    #3 Etcetera, Feb 15, 2006
    How long have you been married? A week? I'm surprised you still try to listen.
     
  4. Miltonian

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    #4 Miltonian, Feb 15, 2006
    The three best times for my wife to attempt to start a conversation with me:

    1) Just as I am walking out of the room.

    2) Just as she is walking out of the room.

    3) When we are on different levels in the house, preferably when she is on the main floor and I am upstairs. Even better if I am in the back room upstairs.
     
  5. wax

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    #5 wax, Feb 15, 2006
    I think I speak for all Deaf-American males when I say, "what was the question again?"
     
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    #6 UroTrash, Feb 15, 2006
    If you start feeling like a dolt saying "whuut" 50 times a day substitute "excuse me?"

    Now yer are a real sophisti-kate.
     
  7. acehole

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    #7 acehole, Feb 15, 2006
    What ever happened to "sorry?"
     
  8. Jerrari

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    #8 Jerrari, Feb 15, 2006
    Thank God my wife is not the only mumbler.
     
  9. CornellCars

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    #9 CornellCars, Feb 15, 2006
    I've studied this...it's not that they mumble, it's that we tune them out!
     
  10. quickchickleslie

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    #10 quickchickleslie, Feb 15, 2006
    Correct. it's the turn down the volume, and tune us out!! I have started adding a few off the wall comments to my one sided conversations, and from time to time I do get a response rather quickly! ;)

    I believe it is called selective listening, selective hearing, whatever it may be, it's selective!
     
  11. quartermaster

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    #11 quartermaster, Feb 15, 2006
    You are correct , Leslie--it is selective.
    When I have my 'wife ears' on, I can't hear a thing!
     
  12. darth550

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    #12 darth550, Feb 15, 2006
    Steve. Don't you know by now? They just THINK the answers, they don't actually say the words.

    ...and we are A-Holes for not hearing them! :)
     
  13. Ciao Bello 348

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    #13 Ciao Bello 348, Feb 15, 2006
    The best is when they're sitting with you (i know, its rare)...

    When they're sitting with you, watching a movie or show.. its deep into the show, only like 5 mins left. EVERYTHING IS ABOUT TO COME TOGETHER--WHEN ALL OF A SUDDEN---


    Female Voice: "Honey? What do you think about us going to dinner with so and so on Sunday?"


    That's why Walmart in NY and NJ dont sell guns.
     
  14. LetsJet

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    #14 LetsJet, Feb 15, 2006

    Same here........... I've dicussed this with her and just don't respond anymore. I continue the conversation when she or I come back in the room. She is getting smarter and will call me on the phone from another room.
     
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    #15 134282, Feb 15, 2006
    She's a keeper... :)
     
  16. LetsJet

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    #16 LetsJet, Feb 15, 2006
    Yes she is........................... :) :) :)
     
  17. Steve R

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    #17 Steve R, Feb 15, 2006
    I've got a plan....I'm going to start trying to keep a count. When she says something I can't hear, I'll say "What 1", then "what 2" the next time she speaks too softly, then what 3, what 4, etc.

    Of course, this imposes on me the need to remember the running count....but over time this little plan will only prove to irritate her and reduce the frequency in which we exchange fluids. It won't make her speak louder and it will serve only to add a burden on our marriage. PERFECT!

    I knew I'd hear the "selective listening" response...great in theory, but even when I'm trying to hear her I can't quite make out the words as they dribble inaudably (sp?) from her mouth.

    My current response is to repeat back to her exactly what I heard her say...which amounts to some dribble that vaguefly resembles what she said. Oddly enough, when repeating her dribble I can sometimes figure out what she was trying to say.

    Other retorts involve "I'm sorry, that was sub-audible", or Pink Floyd's "Your lips move, but I can't hear what you're saying"....or just the easiest thing, which is to just ignore them.

    Which of course brings us back to my older thead about realizing they often say things sub-audibly only so they can later insist they told you what you somehow are now obligated to fulfill that which you agreed (by not responding?) to do.

    Only my Ferrari loves me....:(
     
  18. branko

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    #18 branko, Feb 15, 2006
    LOL, so funny and so true!
     
  19. Z0RR0

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    #19 Z0RR0, Feb 15, 2006
    I honestly prefer having to say "what" a couple times rather than having her speak too loudly ... I hate people who speak at 140dB ...
     

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