William I couldn't agree more.... And when I'm at my hotel down in Cabo with a group of 18 girls and 6 guys, I will be sure to keep that in mind Spring Break couldn't have come at a better time this year.
I've decided that all men are scumbags.. they never really care. They only do what's best for themselves. I'm crushed.
That would be your problem if you are going to close yourself off like that. How can one expect someone of the opposite sex to be receptive when they aren't receptive to the opposite sex themselves? And as for never really caring, what is that about? I know plenty of couples in strong relationships and/or marriages.
on the flip side it seems all women will say they want a gentleman... but actually desire someone that'll give em a swift and severe beating...
I'm always closed off.. this one MADE me let my guard down. I felt bad because he was constantly telling me how much he cared and I never said a word. The MINUTE I let him in he crushed me.. good for him. I was probably just another one. It just pisses me off because I'm always so wise to this crap. As for strong relationships/marriages.. you don't want to hear my opinion on that. I've been through far too much in my family life and "love" life to believe in happily ever after. Sorry, but I don't think it exists. The last one was a gentleman and look what happened? YAY! I think I'll stick to those that come off as a**holes because those are usually the nice guys that got hurt, they're much easier to date. In my experience anyways.. I think the nice guys are the a**holes in disguise, it's all an act. Maybe I'm wrong but I don't think anything is as it appears AND if it's too good to be true it probably is. To the optimists: I'm bitter.. feel free to disregard this post.
So you are saying you don't know anyone who is happy in their relationship and/or marriage? If so you just aren't looking around enough.
Sure, there are plenty of people that are happy in a relationship. I don't know ANY people that are happy in a marriage, though. I could go on.. but the point stands, I don't believe in that "happily ever after" kind of "love." Hell, I'm not sure that I even believe in love anymore. From now on I'm going to focus on myself and MY life and not worry about anyone else.. it may sound jaded or selfish but I matter more to myself than the next man that's going to screw me over. I need to finish school, make tons of money, and get a good job.. THEN *I* will be happy.
i could rattle off tons of ppl i know that are happily married.... like i said... you might think you found "the one" but is it really "the one" or is it just being enamoured with superficial things such as same activites, fav foods, etc etc...
I'm not referring to myself.. I'm referring to damn near everyone I know. Hell, I could tell some tales.
Hmmmm.... maybe he just got tired of having to pull your feelings out of you. He obviously liked you. You obviously liked him. Why did it take you so long to let him know? Because if you "let your guard down" he might hurt you? Well, it seems from the small bit of info you gave us and what I've learned about relationships you've made a self fulfilling prophecy. Until you figure out why you did this expect it to happen again, and again. Relationships are HARD work. Don't expect others to be there emotionally or physically if you're not there emotionally or physically for them.
Memo to liberated women: As always, in the era of the New Millenium, when women have had "liberation" for 40 years; and they have their own jobs, their own cars, their own bank accounts, their own houses, their own cell phones, and yet,.......suddenly,......these liberated women want to act like 1950s vintage wall flowers and "wait for the man to call". You can't have it both ways. With liberation comes risk. The 1950s are gone. You have to put your own ego on the chopping block on a regular basis and see what it feels like. That's what Joe Average dude has to do. Make up your mind. Which is it: 2006 liberated woman or 1950s wall flower?
I told him from day one that I wasn't a very emotional person and that I may have feelings for him but may not be able to express it but if he said something that I'd probably agree with him. He obviously doesn't care.. he told me that "He just got out of a marriage and didn't want to rush things and maybe he's just scared but he needs space and time to himself" also said that it wasn't anything *I* did. I was the perfect girlfriend.. never questioned him, always trusted, and we got along great. The relationship was perfect and then OOPS.. I'm not ready. I asked him why he had started it if he knew he wasn't ready but he said he didn't know from the beginning.. he just started to feel it. He was the one that persued me too.. even though I pulled away at first. If he REALLY cared he would've shoved those feelings of doubt aside as I did and embraced what we HAD. He can f himself for all I care. I'm done.
He requested space, I'm simply complying with that request. Want space? Have alllllllllllllll the space you want. WITHOUT ME.
i agree with this woman.... why hold your life as hostage when there really is no obligation to this person.... as far as perfect girlfriend... mebbe its just me, but i'd def dig a chick who could see stuff i do from a different angle rather than consistently agree with me.... not saying i want someone argumentive... but atleast isn't a yes-woman..... but again mebbe its just me
Funny thing is.. I'm terribly opinionated. He and I were just on the same page with everything. We had the same interests and same beliefs.. I'm HARDLY a "me too girl" I'm the one that never hesitates to speak my mind.. as some of you know.. haha.
yeah i was just sayin in general... the worst cases i've usually seen are where one person puts the other person on a pedestal and makes them into some holy figure rather than just sayin... hey s/he is a good person
I place no one on a pedastool... forget that. I'm not perfect and neither is anyone else. WE were perfect together, though. WERE being the operative word.
don't take this as prodding you or anything... but in all honesty was it really perfect considering you are not together? was probably an enjoyable relationship at the time... just happened to be that you both meshed at the given time... but perfection? perfection is possibly the highschool sweethearts who've been married for 75yrs.... and even they had their ups and downs....
It WAS perfect, it no longer is. My high school sweetheart and I dated for 6 years and that was HARDLY perfection. It was a disaster waiting to happen.. we're still friends though. We're both equally crappy to each other.. haha.
