WOW. That was my first date with my wife, at the track probably closest to you - the Meadowlands. Unfortunately, I'm an avid handicapper, so she was a little scared as I yelled at the horses and didn't talk to her in the 20 minutes between races.
lol, i've learned from my mistakes, that's what happened between me and my last trifling wh, i mean, girlfirend
That's exaclty where I was thinking of when coming up with it. I haven't used it, but it seems to be a perfect play. You're there with a little "project" to do, ie picking horses, which is entertaining and gets you both interacting with each other. If you're pumped about being there she'll get into it too. If you hedge your bets it's hard to be out a lot of money on a rough night. So, no big deal, you're out like $20 from betting and $10-15 in beer. You're 15min from Hoboken at 9 (or 8?) when they are done running. You want to do something that gets you two interacting. Mini golf, arcade, carnival; anything in a safe, happy environment that makes her comfortable. If you find something to do that puts you two on a team, then you're really golden. Girls tend to shy away from head to head competition.
No dinner, Best idea is have her meet you at your place, tell her you are busy so if she doesnt show you wont waste time Next best idea is meet her somewhere when you are out w your friends so you are already doing something fun in case she doesnt show do NOT take her flowers or any kind of gift, do NOT give her ANY compliments Make sure you end the date 1st to keep her wanting more & so she doesnt get sick of you BE COOL, Read the book THE GAME by Neil Strauss
Do NOT try to impress her, that just proves to her that you need to prove yourself to her w chicks everything works backwards from what we think. The more you try to impress the bigger a loser she thinks you are, ask her if she can cook, what she is good at what sports she does Make her impress YOU, that puts you in a powerful position and THAT will impress her Dont build this date up to be important, keep it casual & let her know that you wont be crushed if there is no 2nd date
don't listen to Hubbster, he acts like he's been to the Playboy Mansion or something..............oh wait..................
i think we're going to go to dinner at a restaurant that's not too fancy, not too cheap, then after that we're going bowling, and then probably some dessert afterwards, but i'm still open for ideas...i really don't want to do that "ordinary" first date... (and probably a party afterwards)
No offense, but I think you're trying too hard. What you do matters far less than you seem to think. Bowling is a great idea because you can do something interactive while still getting to know each other. Just have fun and be self-confident. If things work out, great, if they don't, there will be many more opportunities for you.
You should put as much importance on picking up any particular girl as you do on shooting a ball into a basket. If you miss just grab another ball, no drama As for dates you should keep it as casual as possible so she doesnt feel like she's locked into something for hours w some guy she doesnt know If she feels like its a big production she will likely flake on you But there are some great Anti Flaking techniques to ensure she arrives
I have not ventured to this side of the forum before. Here is my 2 cents and what I always tell my salesman. If you want to succeed on a first date, I will let you set those parameters, you will want to get her to laugh. Laughing = good time= happy. Now I know you might be like me and not the best comedian but did you ever think of a comedy club? Even if you are a boring bump on a log but the enviroment is funny and entertaining she will have a good time and it will be reflected upon you. Good luck, if that does not work buy a Ferrari.
Exactly. Trying even moderately hard comes across as being very needy and no girl wants that in the least. DEATH SENTENCE!!!
