Evicting a 'friend'

**UPDATE**

I know some of you were interested in how this situation might end. Heres the story

About a week ago I noticed some charges on my credit card that seemed unfamilar... total of about $700 over the past month. So I asked her if she knew anything about them. She of course denied any knowledge.

I called the company yadda yadda and found out it was used with my pin ( bank atm/CC) so there was no signature to check out. Hmmm... the card is in my wallet..so its not stolen. Its pretty obvious whats happened here as she knows I dont check my accounts very often. Bad habit of mine.

SO I confront her and she denies it until finally she cracks.. you ever see that look in someones eyes..like a switch has been flipped and theyve lost all sense of reality ? She starts screaming about how Ive screwed her over and manipulated her heart ( we've NEVER had any kind of intimacy beyond friendship ) and I owe her big time for everything Ive done, including not buying her a car when I knew she couldnt get a job because she didnt have a car and money wasnt an 'issue' for me...etc...

Im 6'1" 225 lbs and shes about 5'5 160 lbs..and "I" was afraid of her..she was insane.

So I tell her she has to leave and she says she'll start looking for a place. I say 'no' we've been through that before..you need to leave right now. She wont. She tells me she's already called the police dept and learned that I cant just throw her out that she has right of residency so I need to evict her.

Well I dont want to wake up in the middle of the night with the crazy chick hovering over me with a knife so I have to figure out a way to get rid of her 'right now'. So I quickly fabricate a lie off the top of my head about how , yes, its true that the police wont remove her and she has right of residency in their eyes. BUT that the Marshals will remove her unless she can show either proof of a rental agreement and payments or a bill coming to my address with her name on it ( I know she doesnt have any ). Its a total bluff but Im a pretty decent negotiator.

She gets that look in her eyes trying to figure out if im bluffing then counters with the ' Ill call the cops and tell them you raped me and physically abused me" . To which I reply " Well theres not going to be any physical signs/proof of either of those things and ( picking up my video camera) I will video tape you from this moment until you leave to show that if you do have signs you did them to yourself.

She says they'll still take me to jail on her word..to which I agreed. I then said yes..I will spend the night in jail and when I get out and theres no evidence for your claims I will spend whatever is necessary to put you in jail for a very very long time for credit card fraud.

She stared for a few minutes silently and finally said she'll leave right now if I give her $1000. I said fine...go pack your things.

So I gave her the cash and called a cab and she left..that was three days ago.

Hows that for a story ? lol

 

hey everyone.

Yes I changed the locks that night.. she has a bunch of crap in my garage so I havent seen the last of her.. she'll eventually contact me to get it but I WILL NOT let her in the house. I will have some friends come over and we will carry it out to her vehicle.

I've been dealing with the cc companies which is the biggest PITA of all time... but yes has to be done.

Only thing I didnt do is get a restraining order because I knew she would have to come get this stuff.

Heres the kicker..I forgot this part in my last post.

because she knew I was winning this battle she pulled out her 'ace' to at least hurt me in some way as she was leaving. She told me to go to a particular myspace profile and check it out.

So what do I find ? Its my GF's 'secret' profile and it only has two friends on it. One is the crazy chick I just threw out and the other is some guy...and it didnt take much detective work to find out that basically whats been happening is the crazy chick introduced my GF to this guy and theyve been having an affair for a while now.

Of course I havent been able to get in touch with the GF since the night I the crazy chick out....

Its like a freakin soap opera that Ive been oblivious to because Im generally a very trusting and caring person.

 

Yeah Ive heard that a lot recently...

Thing is with the GF..well Im 38 yrs old and shes the only person Ive ever been in love with... I spent most of my life playing the field as the happy single guy. This chick came into my life and was like a lightning bolt...so I was very much caught in the 'love is blind' thing. But I dumped her today.

As for the friend who was staying with me...we were very close friends for years until she 'moved in'. I had some deep discussions with some friends about her past few days and we came to the conclusion this 'friend' has been in love with me for years and has used my lack of recirprocation as fuel for resenting me. Im fairly 'happy go lucky' dude and I just didnt see it.

Why didnt I get her out sooner ? I want to believe the best in people and that she was going through some personal issues and inadvertently taking it out on me. I thought she would change back to the person I was friends with and everything would be cool.. I dont make friends easily so when I have one I dont like to give up on them.

Unfortunately I know too well that sometimes you do have to give up on people.

 

I dont know but shes been living here for over a year and my GF knew it so its not out of the realm of possibility that was the source

 

Yeah she admitted to it last night... she avoided me for a few days then admitted to it last night...though not without the typical " im really sorry it was a mistake...Im begging you to forgive me speech"

 

You must live a very sheltered life if you think this is too hard to believe.

I have no idea what " jerking off in your grandmothers sock' means...im sure its an insult. If it makes you feel like a man to throw insults then kudos for you.

My posts here through the years( and those who know me ) can easily prove that Im a successful and levelheaded business owner who doesnt subscribe to hyperbole.

Anyway..this thread is done. A lot of posters were very helpful giving me ideas on how to handle the eviction. A cheating GF is nothing anyone here hasnt been through and no reason to continue to air that dirty laundry. I only mentioned it because it directly related to the eviction of the friend.

Its Saturday morning and time for a top down drive.

J