dump her. there's plenty more fish in the sea ;)
You guys are really ripping into this girl but all girls around 22 have hang ups and are jealous of this and that. As they get older jealousy turns into some other women issue like work or colleagues...whatever. Maybe this guy really does spend more time with his car than his chick. I am married and always am working, looking at car stuff, working more, driving my car, thinking about driving it. The wife does not mind because she knows I am a work mad, car mad guy. If you like her give her a chance and tell her to chill or you will dump her, be honest. If in your heart you know she is a future nagging beast, ditch her now.
-Had- a gfriend once, when i bought my 328(been -quite- a while). She was there when it was unloaded off the transportation truck... Later comment..."gee, if you hadn't bought the Ferrari, we could move in together into a two story brick house"... I've still got the 328, 'nuff said. Hang onto the car a while, until it's no longer new news, then reassess. Pamper the babe some, shower her with some attention, take her out in non-360, so she doesn't feel like being in a direct comparison. If she cain't git over it, time to move on, son. Chances are, there's some other strife in your relationship you haven't confronted. Until one gains experience in this sort of thing, it's -MUCH- easier to stay in a deadend relationship than to confront the reality that it's time to move on. Is never easy breaking up, but if you do split, it helps to realize that getting it over with is a hell of a lot better in the long run than treading water.
From a poor family, I too have remorse over just about everything I buy for myself. I stress "myself". I nor anyone else has remorse over what I get for them. I love to give, and I give little to myself. This is my gift to myself. I will be quite frank with you, if my wife gave me grief over the car, it'd be gone as I am sensitive about the car to begin with. But my wife knows this is a passion, she knows I love cars, she knows I work hard, she knows I'm happy. She loves me. Your girl is scared you're gonna get laid,..and you are because you're going to ditch her ass. She either has immaturity issues (aka insecure), or doesn't want you to be happy. In either case, your days are numbered. Eventually you'll draw a line in the sand, and more importantly in your mind, and when she crosses it you'll freakin' go balistic and lose the girl. Save yourself some time--move on. Go pick-up and have fun with the hotties. I'd go with you if I were single, but I've struck gold! Good luck to you, and the passions you seek... B~
My grandfather was from the old country; had nine children and soft spoken. He only talked when he had something important to say. The only crude thing I ever heard him say is so dead on that I find myself repeating it everytime I hear about a dude like you. "One hair on a women's **** has more pull than two hundred horses" I this case it's "prancing horses"! If you don't dump this "C" now you're ***** whipped and always will be.
99 problems, but a b**** ain't one. 26 with a Ferrari you should be out there sampling all life has to offer, not thinking about marriage or selling your car to appease a 22 yr old.
IMO the insecure/controller girlfriend is playing into YOUR insecurities about owning the car. Maybe the car is too much of burden for you at this time. I don't mean financially but what it represents personally for you. If you intend to keep the car I'd lay down the law with the GF. She probably won't change however. If you dump her make sure she doesn't come back and damage the car. If you truly have it together(which it sounds like you do) then you need to surround yourself with others who have it together too. The choice is yours
Taking a girl to a strip club is such a good test! BTW, we are talking about women nude on stage, not men... Ray
Charles, you are 26 for goodness sake, you shouldn't even be thinking about settling down period, even if she looks like Jessica Alba, loves your car and lets you go to strip clubs whenever you want But especially not with some insecure, controlling chick - sounds like my ex, I think many here will have similar stories with one common theme - they are all exes... Run now while you can, before she takes 50% of everything..
I'm with the other people here. Dump her. Nothing good will come of this union. Trust me on this one and thank me later...all the warning signs are present. RMX
I don't know what's funnier; the fact that this thread started, and continues to survive on, the 360/430 forum, or the fact that dozens of people have replied already.
counter point - I went from a 360 coupe to a F430 Spider and back to a F430 coupe. The major reason, is like your girlfriend, I personally felt a little to "exposed" in the Spider. An occasional chat a the stop light is ok, but in the Ferrari convertible the frequency was too high for my taste or comfort level. IMO, the addtional glass and aluminum of the F430 afford significantly more privacy making the driving experience so much more personal. net - buy a coupe and you'll both be happy Cheers
Yeah, I tend to agree with you. When you are driving a Ferrari, some people (typically the wrong people) become all too friendly and want to chat you up at stop lights. I can only imagine with a spider it must be ten times worse. Ray
When I met my wife at 34, I told her that I will own a Ferrari one day and to accept it now. I got a 360 at 36 and now I just got delivery of my 430. My wife waits for me to get out of town so that she can cruise with her friends (this you might not want to allow the same). Jealousy starts with the car and then to other things. An F-car is competition to a girl who feels like she has to compete. That comment about her not liking the response you get from others is another sign that he cares what other people think. NOT GOOD.
+1 When I bought my first Ferrari I asked my wife about it. I told her the car would get a certain amount of attention. I also told her I intended to drive my Ferrari and parking would be an issue at times. I asked her if it would bother her. She replied "If it makes you happy then get it" Three points. First and most important, my wife is terrific ! she is my best friend and companion. 27 years later we are still thrilled to be with each other. The lesson, Choose carefully and be nice. Always be aware of your partners needs. Second, 22 years old is very young. Try to work things out. Explain yourself, but understand 22 is a youngster. Third, Ferrari ownership is great, but there are some challenges. The car attracts a lot of attention. You will get over it. Drive the car, enjoy your life. Remember, Everyday is a gift ! Regards, Stew
+1. I think we all experience the same but we know who our real friends are. And by the way, give the bird the sack!
Buy her an expensive piece of jewelry ($5000). Then when she never mentions "excess" , dump her ass and than you won't feel guilty about keeping your car or dumping her. Let her keep the consolation prize.
I do keep it even! When I get my car new shoes she gets 4 pairs. New 5K exhaust she gets 5K in jewelery.
Charles, Here's the bottom line from an older, wiser member of the tribe. Getting the car was a goal and you were proud and excited when it arrived. Your GF chose to throw a wet blanket on your moment. The car is not the issue. If she is insecure at 22, she will very likely be insecure at 52 and still throwing wet blankets. If you can't share the happy moments, your relationship is doomed. People mature as they get older but do not fundametally change. Good luck, Dave
