Have to Vent

Listen, you need to find a peaceful way to deal with this. This woman is going to be with you for a while from the sounds of it. Anything negative you say about her will likely turn your wife against you. In laws have a funny way of screwing up marriages. And unfortunately, it looks like she is living with you...

You know what they say - you don't marry a person, you marry a family...and that often comes with baggage. I don't have an easy answer for you...lousy situation...

 

You are saving a ton of money by having here there (5k a month almost). She probably knew she wasn't supposed to do what she did, but given the background you relayed to us, she probably thought that everyone hates her anyway, so maybe my grandson will like me if I give him these presents. Who knows, but the steps she took to say she was sorry, especially if she's never reacted that way before, seem important. I think you need to buy her a nice present for Christmas, and maybe show her some love and respect that she apparently has never had in her own family. That will probably go a lot farther than the opposite reaction. Again, just my 2 cents. Merry Christmas.

 

Kick her butt out of the house. If shes as smart as she thinks, she will be able to survive on the streets. There's no better way for a marriage to get ruined than to throw a MIL in the mix. She needs to know her role, or get out.

 

Did anyone send you a gun for Christmas?

 

mother in laws.................... nothing but a major pain in the ass................mine is very dumb and very repetitive on her stupid ass lamo stories. I get so sick about hearing how one sister has problems [ drugs ] and cant get her life on track, then theres the other 2 sisters with there f N problems and woe are they. then to hear how she needs a frigin car 10x over and what to buy....... GIVE ME A ****ING BREAK !!!!!!!!! whenever those **** ups come over, i split. its either leave or hang myself.......
so in short, dude -- i feel your pain regarding mother fuc*er in laws.... screw em all...........

 

Wow a post that was in no way related to boobs, I can't believe it!

..you need a beer my friend

 

The ultimate revenge

My fav word Best used on MIL's.

Sounds a lot like my mother in law. I feel your pain my friend. Glad she appologized. I'd imagine it sure makes you feel a lot better, despite all the crap. Even though MIL's are annoying as hell, we still love em, for some strange reason

 

This kind of thing will happen again. Just try to work around it best you can and not get too stressed. Merry Xmas

 

Bill, you seem like a very caring and giving human being. I think it's time you learned a little Mandarin/Chinese. Given the brief history lesson of your MIL past I'd say this will earn you enormous respect from her. You've obviously treated her better than her own children and I suspect the olive branch toward better communication between you two will yield dividends. I know with your busy schedule this is the last thing you’d want to be doing but, as she is raising your son and taking care of the house she is still working seven days a week. I think she’d be blown away by the effort and suspect that any collateral bitterness that’s been heading your way would probably stop.

She might even start wearing those dammed boots. I hope your Christmas gets better.

 

Child care, maid, cook, laundress, 14 hour days........$100/week?!?!?!? Plus you don't speak her language and doesn't sound like you are trying. I would guess she feels like a slave or sweatshop worker and is revolting. I would seriously look into this, she knows she's being used.

My $0.02 opinion. You now have $0.04 total of advice.

 

I don't know what to tell ya Bill. Maybe it's time for your wife to finally learn as well. I'm just pulling at straws...