Did I wuss out and do the wrong thing ???

thanks for the replies.

 

You did the right thing. The hell with him, that's a huge foul, drunk or not. Not worth a night in jail or a lawsuit, however.

 

My wife on far right.


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you are on the right way...

 

lamour, she is a beauty, and your kid is a cutie as well! imagining how upset she must've been after that d*ck tried that stunt... it must've taken some real restraint on your part to not have pounced on that worm the next day and pounded him into the carpet.

you did everything right. imagine having your daughter crying when visiting you in jail for a few months... that would've been awful, and not worth the pleasure of knocking his jaw loose that day.

and though it may have been fractionally more satisfying to imagine him on the side of the road having to walk home that night... if he had been injured that evening after being dumped like the garbage he is, you guys might've been liable. you both were put into a sh*t situation by him, and did the right things. IMO your wife's honor is has been fully defended and restored, and mr.grope-and-deny-remembering has been outed for who he is.

what about the other friend there that night? what is his feeling on this whole issue?

 

I agree with those who said just drop it and move on. Kicking his ass won't prove anything but will just make you look like a fool, at least that's the way I see it when men get physical like that and fight. I had a guy come by and brush my stomach with his hand in a really intimate way in a club when I was with my then bf. I told bf what happened and he went after the guy. I was scared he was going to kick the guy's ass because I just think that is silly. He came back and said the guy was gone. I was like what happened? He said he just put his hand on the guy's back and said, "Come on, let's go," and escorted the guy out of the club and told him it was time to leave. The dude was so high/drunk/whatever he thought my bf was club security. I've got to say I hate it when guys think they can just grope us women, be it on the breast, butt, stomach, whatever. I've had it happen a few times and it makes me livid. But for a "friend" to do it is beyond awful.

 

Thanks for the compliment.
The other guy is pissed as well. He didnt know what happened until today when we spoke. Its amazing, Ive been on this earth for 43 years, had many girlfriends and with my wife now for almost 18 years and never has this ever happened to me before. I almost feel as if she was violated.
Like alot of you said already - F him. I believe he'll get what is deserved.

 

I think you took the mature road Lamour without getting physical, that is a sign of true maturity, and it is apparent he does not know his limits concerning booze and needs to growup alittle. Now he may actually be a truelly good person who let himself go overboard strictly due to the booze talking. If you feel he truelly has the potential to be a TRUE friend maybe you should talk to him about his tendency to go way overboard while drinking and you will keep a close on eye on him from now on while you are together, if you let that ever happen. Since he is just in his early 20's I know from experience, as you probably do aswell, that he loves to party yet having a more mature crowd to hangout with could get him back on track?

One thing a true and mature friend will always do is know when to say NO to another drink and they will always have you and your better halfs best interest and safety in mind. Believe me I have been in way to many drunken situations with good friends girlfriends who were smashed but guess who would call me the next day to say hello and how much they appreciated me being there for them in a time of recklessness due to nothing but booze?

I am by no means sticking up for him and you must do what is right for you and your lady yet maybe a second redeeming chance could be what he really need's? I have let so many friends thoughout the years redeem themselves to me for one reason or another and it was truelly worth it, there is only one feeling better than love and that is forgiveness.

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If I had caught him in the car doing that, I would have cold-cocked him there and then, as there would be witnesses to testify that he fell out of the car and hit his face on the curb, etc. As for your situation hearing about if afterwards, you did the right thing. I have ZERO tolerance for that kind of crap because if a 'friend' does it once, it's likely that: 1) They will do it again and 2) They were rotten to begin with and you were simply unaware of the REAL type of person they were, so in short, you do not need them in your life.

 

The guy was deinately out of line and a jackass. You did the right thing by not putting yourself in a position to be arrested or anything.

During dinner, did you discuss your wife's implants with this guy?

 

+1

 

I'm sure he really feels like a jackass, Canned courage can get the best of anyone. At this point calm down the wife and assume the Alpha Dog lead, I'm sure your friend got knocked down a few notches and he will become a loyal and trusted friend again. Just remember you get a free one when he brings his wife around

 

LOL

 

I have to disagree with those of you saying to give him a second chance, blaming the booze, etc.

for one thing, it's not just up to lamour... his wife has to feel comfortable with ever being around that guy again. moreover, if lamour says he'd like to try to work it out with mr.grope, his wife may feel obligated to try to do the same, and never voice how uncomfortable she is about it, out of loyalty to her husband. that's the kind of thing that could undermine their relationship. seriously.

I say, screw that. neither lamour nor his wife asked to be put into this crap situation, they shouldn't feel the need to make it right with mr.sneak-a-feel. it IS black-and-white, and should be treated accordingly to maintain the sanctity of lamour's marriage.

you do not touch another man's woman. no excuses. NONE. he broke the code. he is out. game over, there is no redo.

life will be plenty pleasant enough without that guy in the picture.

moreover, if this guy hasn't even bothered to write a sincere heartfelt letter of apology to lamour and his wife, then there's nothing at all to discuss.

 

+2

 

+3 Drunk is NEVER an excuse for something like that.

Let him go for good. There are a few things in life you can NEVER attone for. That is one of them.


You did good Lamour. Your freedom is not worth his dentures. Leave him dead in your eyes. Besides, what will happen "the next time."

 

I say get him piss drunk again and beat the ever lovin' crap out of him. Then tell him he fell down some stairs when he asks you why he is in the hospital.

That is a WIN WIN!


Seriously, You did the right thing, and your family will be stronger for it.

 

+4

 

To the OP, you not only did NOT wuss out, but you handled this in the best possible way. I have a lot of respect for the way you took care of it.
IMHO, it's all about your wife. She was physically violated. She was the victim. She's a beautiful woman and I'm sure she's an amazing human
being as well. Even though I don't know either of you, I would love to punch your ex friend in the ear a couple times. I always find that a punch
in the ear really leaves an impression! Anyhow, you did the RIGHT thing.