guys... i'm sad and lonely

Come to the Dirty Jerz and we can be lonely together




But seriously, you sound like the typical early 20-something person who hasn't figured their life out. Its nothing to fret about. Just enjoy the car and have a good time. Good things come when you least expect them

 

Thanks for all the advice! Some of your assumptions were incorrect though and it hurt to see you state them as if they are facts. I do know you're just trying to help me.

My friend's dream isn't to become a dentist... He doesn't really have a dream yet except he really wants to retire his parents. They work so hard in their deli shops and they're getting old. HE asked me to help him do what I do. I didn't make him. He wanted to drive with me, etc...have my freedoms and share them together. I just started to buy into it when it seemed like he was going to be in it for the long haul, so I was very disappointed when he said he was quitting. He also sounds so disappointed in choosing the dentist approach. BUT update it turns out he's going to keep up with his online marketing, but he's doing the strategy i started with (SEO) to get ranked in google instead of risking more money advertising various places like facebook, etc.

He just decided to do dentistry because he heard it pays well and because that's something his korean community holds up (being a dentist).. he doesn't even really want to be one.

I apologize though:
I was an ass for saying "wage workers who just drink and party" for sure. That's just all I'm exposed to around here. I don't go out to clubs etc so I forgot about the rich people who can be even worse. Where I live, nobody I see/meet follows their dreams. They tell me about their dreams and why they'll never reach them. I always try to help inspire them (not by showing off material things but by showing passion for life and pursuing dreams, hoping it will rub off on them.

This is what it comes down to...
That's what makes me feel lonely. I don't care if they have nice cars or houses.... I just want to be around people who are passionate about SOMETHING besides drinking, partying and getting laid... and who are actually putting in a big effort to reach that dream!!! Ahh thinking about that makes me so happy.

Does that clarify things more? Anyway thank you for the help.

 

+1

Fantastic post! I'm only a year younger than the OP and I've recently learnt some very similar lessons after losing quite a few friends.

To the OP: Don't pick your friends based on how much money they have or what they do, while it does help to have someone who comes from a very similar background since it's easier for the both of you to understand each other, it's really not necessary. Get some real friends who don't care what you drive or how much money your make but instead accept you for who you are.

If you really call that friend of yours a brother, then I hope you haven't alienated him just because he didn't do what you wanted him to do. If you're really his friend, you should support him and continue being his friend. It's not like he's suddenly decided to sell drugs or something, he's studying dentistry for goodness sake! Money changes people and it makes others jealous of you, while you're entitled to your own success, you don't really need to show it off (ie It's ok to drive a C63, but it's probably not such a good idea to tell everyone that you've got one). While it's understandable that you just bought an awesome car and you're really happy about it and kinda want to share the joy with the people around you, most people are going to take it the wrong way because (as a friend of mine just told me) it comes across as showing off.

Like Senna mentioned, from your post, it seems that you're only thinking about others catering to your needs all the time, but have you ever thought of changing yourself?

 

Like me. Seriously. Come up here. There are a bunch of fchatters around here and we'll have some fun

 

Could you please read my response to Senna? This is blowing out of control. I'm not alienating my friend. I am supporting him fully. I just was disappointed when i thought he was fully giving up because I almost gave up in 2006 when I couldn't pay rent and my gf had to buy groceries for me. Then I saw pursuit of happiness and I cried so much. I kept working at it and I'm fine now. I just didn't want him to give up because I never give up and it worked for me, and he said he wanted to succeed with it.

I don't buy things to show off. I bought the AMG because it's fast and comfortable - then when I realized it looked like a show off car in the parking lot, I felt sick.

 

Hey nice to meet you man. I'm always up for meeting fchatters. I've never been to any of those states either. What's a good time of year?

 

i can relate to you on some levels, and one thing i have found is i have found more friends in a different age group.
im 24 and most of my friends are 30-40. they seem to have their lives sorted, know what they want, and most of them have got what they want.
they also dont all try to out do eachother or impress one another.

whether that helps you or not, im not sure. but just something worth thinking about.

 

that helps me for sure. I just never get in a place where I can meet people in that age group it seems... I just kindof stay at home.
i hope I can rectify that starting with cars and coffee. thanks man

 

In NJ? Never


Summertime for the rest of the tri-state area


Seriusly, if you're ever up here, let me know

 

cool man pm me and I'll contact you next time I feel like some traveling.

 

yep sounds a lot like me, id rather stay at home or do something by myself than go out with others of my same age group who just seem to dick around all the time.
hang in there mate, i think eventually you will find what you are looking for and when you do, you will be a success

 

thank you!!!!

 

Same

 

What's with the spam PM with links to bogus internet marketing scams?

Not cool.

 

It would be cool if you could clarify that I didn't send it....... Who sent a spam PM? I never sent you a PM........ I got one from HobbsTC though about some MLM thing

 

Dedicated to you!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eo9Zgfndtak&feature=related

 

lol. that feels alarming. good thing i did yoga a while ago

 

Just live your life and try to find things you enjoy, and in the process you'll meet people who you enjoy being with. You are at a stage of your life that most people your age aren't. Just try to find people whose company you enjoy, regardless of their goals or their age or what have you. One of my good friends hates cars and rides a bike and can't hold a job to save his life but he makes me laugh so we always have fun when we get together. My best friend is a stay at home mom and I'm a workaholic single girl, but we just enjoy each other's company and are like sisters.

 

thanks for perspective I think I need to write a song now. have a good night!!

 

Let's have a group 'hug' now!

Squeeze everyone............No one on Fchat is alone.

 

You need to get a dog.

 

Zoloft & 100 proof whiskey

 

lol no thanks i don't do a drinks or pop pillses.

 

Whoa, we're goin' to Never Never Land!

 

What's "pillses"?