Discipline with your kids - Part II

To which you reply, "Your place or mine?"

 

LOL

When I was a kid my dad gave me a shirt that said 'rock n fxxkin' roll' with a screaming skull on it. I got a kick out of wearing it at the most inappropriate times and seeing peoples reactions.

I also have had several GF's that enjoyed getting under what we called the 'norms' skin by wearing shirts such as the one you describe above.

However as I got older I mellowed a bit and if I had a child I wouldnt allow them to wear anything like that...but it doesnt bother me if someone else does.

 

I have found it disappointing at the lack of respect you tend to see these days. That's a part of me getting older, sure. But things like going to church--especially on Easter--should command a little more dignity and decorum. When we joined our church in the city, I found it hard to get used to people showing up in sweatshirts, jeans, t-shirts and shorts. I went back and forth between the sentiment that "It's better than not coming at all" and "How hard is it to put some presentable clothes on?" While it's useless to fight against our country's slide into "slacker nation", some things do deserve our respect. And taking the time to make yourself presentable is a way of showing that respect. Whether to the parents or the church. Personally, I probably would have made her go inside and change. If it made you late, I would have had her apologize to Grandma and to the pastor.

 

i think thats worse than wearing jeans w a hole in them... lead by example. If you make arbitrary rules as to what is or isnt (or if or when) acceptable I dont know how you can expect her to follow Pete.

 

My god-daughter Desire', who is the love of my life, mentioned once that if she got spanked she would call 911 so I handed her the phone!! I am more than willing to spend time in jail for the sake of letting my loved ones, I do not have any kids currently, know that they do not run the show. Kids these days think they run the show until you tell them to GTF out of my house if you can do so much better! Tough love is not easy with someone you love more than life itself but the shock factor works wonders.

On the other hand what I have tried and done with great success is to reason with them and let them know how much you care and that you are disappointed about something and try to workout a compromise with 90% your way and 10% their way. Also just so everyone knows I do not condone physical intervention yet I'm not against a good spanking. My stepfather the 'enforcer' was all about physical abuse but I'm not mad any more I just feel sorry for him because he was a product of his enviroment.

Spread the love is what I'm saying,
tex

 

Common theme for "tough lovers" who aren't themselves fathers.......

 

It never came to that thank god because I helped her calm down about such an irrelevant situation. What I did was put myself into her situation and how she felt and reasoned with her while letting her know how her mom and I, the people who love her more than anything, need to handle such things and that we rely on her to make the best decision she can.

She is my baby, although she is 20yrs old now, and I never have lifted a hand to her, I only tried to teach her HOW to act in a positive manner. I'm very very proud of her!

tex

 

One does not have to be a father to understand what true love is so please do not categorize me as you know nothing about me or the person that I am.

 

The real paternal bond cannot exist without the blood connection. It's true, what they say about being a father, that it changes a man. A stepfather may very well be a caring, responsible, caretaker but a father, he will never be.

Not too many guys marry women for their kids. They grow fond of them and love them, even adopt them, sure, but it was mom they were after.

 

True, and I apologize if you think I'm categorizing you as such is not the case.

I am just speaking in general terms on a chat board.

 

I appreciate that bro, our signals got crossed that is all.

 

You are right man. I know my love for Desire', even after having her fall asleep on my chest the day she came home at 5 days old, cannot compare to true fatherhood.

My exact situation since I was 4yr's old up until his passing on Christmas Eve of '07.

JEEEEEEEEEEEEZZZZZZ I want children so bad!!

Anyway back to the topic I say just smother them with love, understanding and guidance as much as possible and hope they make the right decisions.

tex

 

Nope, just a dad. Try a day in my shoes and then tell me about unconditional love.

 

N/S tell that to my mom aswell, she'll kick your arse! LOL
Your a lucky mofo imho Darth550. I would rather deal with the stress from my own kids than the stress of not having any of my own but I'm working on that so wish me luck ok?

tex

 

Good luck, we're all counting on you!

 

I thought of something tonight that will hopefully knock her nickers off!! Thank you darth550 I need all the support I can get and then after our first born I will be counting on your advice from my 'man cave'!! LOL

 

K, I'll start here, name him something that starts with "D"!

 

LOL, thats great!!!!

 

I have to agree.

I've seen moms whip out Nintendo DS' from their purses and hand them to their kids and my own friends texting during church. It irritates me because unless its a possible life or death situation there is no need for it. Not to mention a distraction for me.