Do you ever get obsessive about something you cant have? material things or emotional. i seem to find myself time and time again, obsessing about things just out of reach or just unobtainable. I'm just curious as to whether its just me or if everyone else does it. i don't consciously think its because i "want more more more" but it seems to be that way.
"Addicted to money, allergic to being broke" Don't really know, I don't think I have an obsessive side, maybe I do, I just don't see it.
sorry... not american its probably not as excessive as i may have sounded... its more just a flavour of the month kinda thing... its usually about something materialistic. like i will want to buy something, and then research it to the nth degree, even though i cant afford it... then move on to the next "great idea"
I am like this, but mostly I think it is out of boredom or escapism (if that is a word). For example I will research building a kit car, or perhaps the steps required to build a tile patio because they are interesting, but I know I would never build either. Better than laying in bed with your mind racing about work or regrets or other stressful things. I do worry myself though because sometimes I obsess about really dark things that rationally I know are a remote possibility, yet I find myself thinking and worrying about them nonetheless. I worry about my daughter getting gravely injured, when she is perfectly safe sitting next to me watching TV. I worry about the wheels flying off my car when I had just tightened the nuts last weekend. I don't remember being this way when I was younger.
By the time you have the means to actually purchase one, there will be another wonder car to fantasize about, but I know what you are saying. If the focus on acquiring of a material thing motivates you to better yourself then it is a beneficial practice. While others might feel differently, in my experience the endless quest for the next bauble will leave you exhausted and emotionally empty. After you have a few nice things you realize that even if you had everything you wanted, the problems in your personal life are not erased because you have whatever material item that was your goal. By all means work to buy one, and if you can swing it someday park one in your garage, but don't expect it to change (or improve) your life. I don't mean to read more into your comment than was intended, but I've seen many people go buy a big house, fast car, change careers, or have plastic surgery thinking it will make them feel better about other issues. This ultimately leads to deep disappointment.
There might be something to your obsessing on something that's always just out of reach. A shrink would probably say your subconscious is telling you you don't really deserve it or for whatever reason you're setting yourself up to not follow through on things etc. Think about it, you could probably be putting that energy into finding ways to have the resources to be able to realize these pipe dreams
Don't think I will ever want more than an LP640, ever since the day I saw one I've wanted one, even if I got given a 670 I would still go trade it for the 640. That car has done wonders for me, it took me from a B/C student to a straight A juggernaut. I get what you are saying though, but of course, it's one of those things that if I don't achieve I will get to 60 and think to my self why didn't I work harder or why did I never take that job? etc etc. I'd like to achieve the goal and move on.
There's nothing that obsessively controls me, but I think of this in terms of "If I won the lottery..." I'd go to Guitar Center and empty them out. Then I'd go to Continental Motors in Hinsdale and get a couple cars.
I can. Does Hayden ring a bell? Are you going to be one of the only "adults" watching I Love You Beth Cooper?
What's your MBTI [personality] type? For some like ENFP, a lot of daydreaming and focus on future things is normal, and then you change your mind and go to something new.
I'm obsessed with my work. It's an art to me. My customers are my canvas and my pens are my paintbrushes. In an up market, I enjoy that customers come to me. When the market is down, I go to them and find creative ways to slay my competitors. As the artist frames their work, I frame my house and savings account with the sweat of my effort.
