If any group knows women, it's my Ferrari brothers (and sisters?). I throw myself at the mercy of the forum. Hear my case: Okay, so I have been admiring a woman from a distance through Myspace. We'll call her Girl #1. We have sent a few messages to each other, but nothing serious just fun/flirting. No real connection other than that. So we finally met in person... her & her friends. Decent group of people for sure.Here is the catch: one of her friends is 100% hotter & more compatible. While Girl #1 seems okay, there wasn't a strong connection. I could probably work on that? But after Girl #1 left the party, her friend & I stayed and seemed to really hit it off! So is there any way to make the leap? Or is this the classic "a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush" lesson? Girl #1 may feel like her friends betrayed her if I switched (creating waves which would surely end everything), or her friend may feel that I am a player if I formally announce my interest in her (again, ending everything). UGH Any advice is appreciated. I could probably be happy with girl #1, but might regret not taking any opportunity (if it exists) for the better model. PS - I am not a player and definitely not trying to use both women.
Pics or it didn't happen. - On a more serious note...Go with the girl you like the most. You seem more interested in #2 but you just don't want to hurt #1s feelings...**** happens and she has to understand it! I do want pics though, since you posted on the internet its an unwritten rule you now have to post it.
If you are always looking for the next one better you will never be happy. On the other hand settling for someone you are blah about also is cheating yourself out of a better opportunity. I know this doesn't help... The unknown from the original post is how into you Girl 1 seems to be. If she really likes you, as you know this could be trouble if you actually like Girl 2. If she feels the same way about you as you do about her, it might turn out OK as long as she thinks ending whatever you have started is her idea. You might want to consider a Girl 3, or look at a girl's Myspace friends first.
Go with girl #2 because you like her more. Explain to her that you dont want to be breaking friends apart but you feel a strong connection with her and would like to see where it goes... If for some strange reason a fight between the 2 occurs and it goes down the ****er, than look at the bright side, still 2 999 999 998 left on this planet for you.
Wait wait, switched?! It wasn't a relationship in the first place. Girls are teases. Dead serious with that, giant flirts which may have the biggest personalities and it comes off that they like you, but they are like that with everyone. Don't do anything now, just let it flow for a week or two and see where it goes from there.
You never really hit it off with girl #1, she is a friend. Girl #2 and you hit if off well. If girl #1 left, she kinda gave the go for you and girl #2 imho or else girl #1 would be 'possessive' and have hung around to 'keep' you. IMHO: Hotness comes and goes, personality and 'chemistry' lasts longer....
Just keep working #2. I wouldn't offer any apologies or excuses just ask out #2 and see where that goes? If asked just say you didn't feel the chemistry. Good luck with it.
Girl # 2 was just flirting with you to get back at her friend (girl #1). I know it seemed like the chemistry was natural but my guess is that girl #2 turned up the charm just for the purpose of ruining girl #1's internet guy for her. If you still want to take the plunge just let the potential romantic relationship with #1 dissolve by your lack of interest and then make your move with #2. If you think #2 may be a keeper the way you handle (get rid of) #1 will affect the health of your relationship with #2 should it materialize. Don't even think about settling for #1.
Go for #2..... It doesn't seem that your heart is in it for #1. Further, it was the first time you met her. Though, I bet #1 isn't going to think she was too smart inviting #2.
Not sure I see your dilemma other than not wanting to hurt girl #1's feelings. But after all, you just met for the first time to see if you were compatible. I hate to say this but man up.
and wait and see if girl2 is just playing on girl1 or is really there on day2. life's short, you don't owe either of 'em anything at this point. You know they're doing the same to multiple guys, and not having to go check with an internet forum to see if they need to answer your im
Go w Girl 2, if there is no connection w #1 then forget her Chances are if you hook up w G2, G1 will become more interested in you Just focus on G2, dont mention G1 Make sure you follow this rule "Always leave them wanting more" Give her some time but take off just before she wants to True, you had nothing w G1 so dont dwell on. You may have something w G2 so go with that. Just dont compliment her too much before you bang her. Chicks need to earn compliments, dates, dinner etc
I would continue to meet in the same fashion a few more times. When we first meet people we are on our best behavior, with time that wears off. Your opinion may change in 3-4 weeks.
WH has it down, so to speak, but seems to be one of those rare birds that can pull it off and get away with it. I more or less "got my share" in my 20's, but ended up gratefully married before 30, and have been so ever since. O One at a time is fine, thanks.