How to deal with loneliness?

I'm sorry that you're lonely. Been there. The good news is that this loneliness may be your motivating factor to start you on a new path to branch out. Perhaps there is something you've been wanting to try that may lead you to meeting new people. Taking a class, joining a new gym, joining a club - any of this sound interesting? Being very lonely, bored and unfulfilled led me to get back into competing horses - it was the best decision I ever made. It opened a whole new group of friends and activities. I hope you find that special bond.

 

hookers and blow.

just kidding. agree with the above, use it as an opportunity to branch out-new friends, new experiences, etc.

and while personal, face-to-face contact is important, technology makes keeping in touch pretty easy, provided there is intentionality on the part of both parties.

 

Haven't you heard of Solitaire?

 

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Sounds like a Bromance

Get a girlfriend Brian, all will be well

 

PAP has made a darn good life of it right here on F-Chat

LOTS of friends here... just post - you only have 35k posts to go

Jedi

 

..and the guy has the same name as me

 

Get out and do productive stuff and don't just hang around the house. Dog?

 

I dont know about Malaysia but in the USA we have lots of track events where you can meet lots of cool people

I'm going to try something a little different and take up sailing

 

I know how you feel I could use more friends to (I always have a few but what do you do when they're busy? be lonely and bored) I just went three weeks without seeing any friends and for three days was stuck running the family business based out of home without any relief it sucked. Finally two of my best friends came over and hung out and helped with the business for 9 hours-feel fantastic after that nothing like a couple friends to hang with to rejuvenate. It also helps to build up the "strength" to not need people quite so much I was fine for two weeks but then again I'm a bit of a loner with lots of stuff to do on my own

 

I just lost a 11 year old best friend over something stupid and it hurts really bad. Suddenly I had too much spare time in my hands. But after a couple of weeks, I realize that I can now pursue new goals and meet new friends. It is amazing how many cool guys you can meet at car events through Internet forums I'm also gonna start to jog in the evenings, learn to take good pictures with my new DSLR camera and spend more time think about future career and business opportunities...

SuperJ gave good advice, +1.

 

when I was 12 (almost 13) I moved from my hometown half way across the world away from my best friend & other friends...Me and my best friend pretty much did everything together, whether it be playing with cars when we where younger, offroading in the dunes on our bikes or racing my quad at the race track, we did so since we where 4.

I got new friends in the Caribbean, but of course I moved from there to the UK for 3 years as well. And when I finally had a few awesome friends, we moved AGAIN, to spain this time. I didn't speak the lingo and planned to move back to the UK but then the credit crunch hit so the Brits refused to hire pretty much any foreigner (me). Couldn't get a job in spain and after a while my money ran out so couldn't go out any more (I refuse to go out on the pockets of others).

In the end, I haven't seen my best friend in well over 2 years now, I haven't had any real friends since I left the UK. It did some good though, I've come up with a brilliant business idea which I'm fairly close to getting funding of (I had no idea how hard it came after the credit crunch) so if I can finally start that, me and my best friend are going to do a road trip across the states next year sometime while I continue to expand the business.

It does suck, but if you're mentally stable you should get above it.

 

WERA?

 

You know, I can say I've gone through it before, I moved to Austin when I started 6th grade, then I made friends with some people and we remained friends till 12th grade, but we also had other friends, but we didn't hang out as much as we did back in middle school, so I kind of felt lonely there, I think moving to Arizona was a reason to break that and to make new friends, plus I already knew a few people since I came here a lot when I was younger due to family here and made close friends with some people that I knew before and we still hang out a few times, and I feel like it takes me back to our somewhat younger days.

We all get lonely at times, so it's not a bad situation. If you have a daily routine, change it up, do something different.

 

Cigars, bourbon, beer, reckless driving, drugs, hookers - lots of trips to Vegas. You'll get by.

Oh no wait - I mean church, bible studies, church singles groups & lots of time meditating.

 

Hang in there man. It's tough.

I'm sort of going through it right now. Just extending my gym time and not focusing on getting from point A to point B in such a rush. It's sort of strange, I go through a period of time where I have tons of things on the calendar, then nothing at all.

Most of my friends are married, engaged or in long term relationships, but i still hang out with them. They don't make me feel like a 5th wheel. But unlike you they (want to) know/understand my girl problems, especially their gf's/wives. I can tell them anything and they'll listen and give me their opinion. They encourage it actually.

Having suffered from depression in the past, take advantage of every opportunity that presents itself. Even if you feel tired or just don't feel like it. That is one aspect that helped me overcome my depression. I don't always, and i usually kick myself by not doing so.

What brings us down can only make us stronger.

 

IMO loneliness has to do with being unhappy with oneself. Another person cannot eliminate loneliness unless you are co-dependant on each other...which isnt healthy.

 

I go through cycles like that too. Like sometimes I feel like I have so much to do I can't see straight, and then other times I feel almost like I have no friends. I think it's best to just focus on yourself when you don't have a lot on your social calender and just work out, read, meditate, whatever, and before you know it you'll have moved into a new chapter in your life.

 

Just remember if you change hands it'll seem like it's someone else!

 

Seriously, there's a big difference between loneliness and solitude.

Be happy.