bad day at work! venting

Life is too short - move on, nobody needs that kind of BS to earn a living.

 

Sounds like some of my former employees talking about me, except for the mom and pig part.

 

I would not let someone drive me to screw myself which is what you would be doing quitting. I would document any further outbursts and if you have an HR department make sure your documentation goes into your personal file and keep a copy for your records. I'd not be confrontational going forward and let any harsh words roll off my back...words won't hurt you. I'd MAKE them fire you if it comes to that and take your documentation to your lawyer, have your lawyer call them and tell them you want re-instated and compensation for unjustly letting you go. You'll have the last laugh and IF you have a good lawyer you may be able to sue for a nice sum due to unfair labor practices. Once they see you will play hardball if forced to be that way...I'd bet fat boy will be told to keep his cool.

There is no sense throwing away your job because there's an idiot in charge ESPECIALLY if it means loosing your Fcar. It happens man...lots of Aholes out there. They won't have a leg to stand on if you do it right...documentation is the key. Keep the car, keep your cool and be smart about it...you'll come out ahead.

 

It sounds like the owner is used to being browbeaten by this pair. Have you seen this behavior from them before, towards yourself or other employees? Was the cause of this outburst something significant, or just a power play?

I guess if it was me, I would go to the owner and say "Look, their behavior towards me in public is not acceptable. They can either apologize to me in public, in a manner that is acceptable to me, or you will have to make a decision. They go or I go. If I have to go, then I'll go. And the next time this happens, someone else will have to go. You need to put a stop to it, and you need to do it now."

 

+1

I like this train of thought.

 

Without thinking, I would have performed a SNAP KICK to the groin hard enough to lift him off the floor. Casually turned and said goodby on my way out, as the others watch him writhe in agony, never to return (unless asked).

 

Good advice.

Look at the big picture, have a calm discussion with the owner and try to find middle ground. If you don't report to the loudmouths you shouldn't be forced to quit by them.

 

Let me get this straight - you are going to let a guy and his mother dictate whether or not you should keep your job, your house, and your Ferrari? What am I missing?

 

Start looking for a new job. Once secured, hand in your 2 weeks and be very explicit as to why. You keep you sanity, your F-car and your pride.

Quitting without another gig lined up ain't too smart in this day and age, especially in the hospitality industry.

 

Totally agree. Don't let THEM steal your dreams.

Remember... don't get mad... get even.

 

I've had that pulled on me by Directors and Controllers.

Use these words: "Hostile work environment"

Those people are no longer there.

I do their former tasks.

 

I like that

 

Why don't you consult an employment attorney. Just "talk" to one. Even if your company does not have an HR Dept., an attorney would tell you what you can do or cannot do. Why give up everything? That is what they are looking for. I wonder, just wonder, if you can be a royal pain in their side from now on and still work there? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm? It might actually make it fun working them for a change.

 

Go with wax's hostile work environment advice. Keep a level head at work until resolved and don't let yourself get into any more shouting matches with these buttheads or your boss.

 

FTW - and document as mentioned by markgllc to back it up.

 

Crap like this is one reason why I don't do the whole "job" thing anymore. I'd rather scrape by on my own than have to put up with people like that. It sounds like you have some money put aside, maybe you could use some of it to start something of your own.

 

You all didn't get it, he is basically looking for a new job.

 

Be careful if you decide to stay. You have them by the balls with this sudden action and by staying, you give them time to find another qualified individual to replace you.

Personally, when I throw in my resignation, there ain't nothing short of giving me $1mil that would make me stay.

Good luck.

/m

 

My thoughts also, anywhere you go can deal you the same crap.

There is no law saying you have to give 2 weeks notice, find another job and say 'seeya', it happens all the time.

 

I don't think anybody missed that, nor can one blame him for frustration. Did you miss the part about him needing to sell valuables in order to get by, as jobs are relatively scarce? In the meantime, why should he bear *that* burden, let alone daily grind when lesser minds created this hostile work environment? **** that.

Ideally, if one or two of the dingbats leave first, he and the owner will both have dark clouds lifted. The owner needs this wake-up call perhaps more so than the *nepotistic bullies. In any instance, our hero's not the one that needs to shape up. The rest are. If and when time comes, he can ship out on his terms, not theirs & keep his stuff and integrity intact. If they can't abide - the law is on his side.

**ahem* I wouldn't be surprised if mama writes the business checks . . . some to herself and her son, under aliases/fake business names/expenses, if not padding all either can. They're protecting something aside from their jobs.

 

Don`t call it quits, you belong to the Brotherhood now were family let the family step in and take care of it for you. We will make them an offer they can`t refuse