"Tempt not a desperate man." Alex is only half right... Figure out what you want to say to this girl... Get it all down in your head - maybe practice in front of a mirror if you have to - then go find her... Don't rush her or tell her while she's in the middle of something, but just get a minute of her undivided attention... Tell her exactly how you feel with the expectation of never seeing her again... If that's what happens, then you met your expectation and achieved closure by telling her how you feel... Anything else is a bonus...! But don't get played... Follow your heart, not your dumb stick...
Townshend, dude, I've been pathetic like you and regret every wasting day that I was so. You lose nothing but your self-respect. Get on with life and quit obsessing over her. Dane
Start dating other girls as soon as possible, a lot of girls, keep your options open, and remember this: DO NOT TALK ABOUT YOUR EX TO YOUR DATE. If you stay in touch with this chick you're not really gonna get over her anytime soon, so, your best bet is to move on.
First: Take no love advice from Carbon. Second: Recognize that you don't miss HER, you just don't want someone else to have her. Otherwise, why did you let her go in the first place? Third: There are thousands of other women out there, why are you hung up on this one? MOVE ON, repeat.
Immature Love: "I love you because I need you." Mature Love: "I need you because I love you." Erich Fromm
Cut & run & depart from the FRIEND ZONE as fast as humanly possible 4th year of college is WAY too good to spend swooning over some chick. Dude you are an upperclassmen, go hit on nice tight 19 yr old freshmen girls
I'm with William on this one. I've stayed friends with only ONE girlfriend. Why stay in touch? You've both moved on, oh wait only she has, and it's time to move forward. If you stay in touch with her it should be after you have had a few relationships. Right now all it will cause you is pain. It's like an arm that's no longer of use and is becoming infected with gangrene. It'll never be the same... cut it off and save yourself. (Do I win the bizarre analogy award?) Plenty of fish in the sea. Go catch a few and throw them back.
First of all, remember you are getting advice from random people on the internet. Second, just because someone drives a Ferrari doesn't mean they are classified to give good advice on woman, a lot of people drive Ferrari's because THEY need good advice on women. Third, just because someone talks on a Ferrari site DEFINITELY does not mean you should take their advice... IMO...which is worth what you payed for it....CMY is correct...your in college...bang as many chics as you can....I lived in the same college town for 4 years after I graduated...I had to YANK myself from that town because it was so much fun... What you haven't told us is "Do you want her back, or do you just want to be friends?" If you want her back....STEP UP TO THE PLATE AND TAKE HER BACK. F*** this guy she is dating...Edge him right out of the picture...Do this by... 1. Banging other chicks...especially her friends... 2. Put this guys reputation in the gutter...Call him out right in front of a bunch of people... 3. Disrupt their relationship...but do this subltly...last thing you want to come off is as the crazy ex... 4. In essence, become the man...mostly like if you do this you wont want her back when she does want you back... Remember.... "All is fair in love and war" "Love is a battlefield" and most importantly... "You have to fight for your right to party"
I am a helpless romantic so for me to tell you forget it is not something I can advise. I still sometimes think of my ex from 3 years ago..... Antony
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If not, it was never yours to begin with. --Attributed to Anonymous, but echoed by Demi Moore's character in the movie Indecent Proposal
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If not, and its worth enough, go to ends the Earth, find that sh*t, and when you capture it, lock it up and never set it free again!"
Of all the OWN3D pictures, that is the one I can never figure out. Is it implying that another guy fathered the baby with the mom in the picture, and the poor guy is just sticking around? When I first saw that pic, I just assumed they had just adopted the baby.
antony......i echo your sentiment. this is why chicks dig you, brother ! walter...., it's such a personal issue. i have no good advice for you. hang in there....one thing for certain...."time heals". it will eventually get better....
Although I don't know Antony, I couldn't agree more on both points..believe it or not girls do have a soft spot for "nice guys".
You have to remember that you are both different people now than you were when you started college. My guess is that you love the idea of her, not who she is now. You may have had other GFs before her, but she is all you know dating-wise as an adult Being separated for 8 months is more than long enough, find someone else to go on a date with. This next girl will not be the mother of your children, in fact if you are only mildly attracted to her that is OK too. The point is the activity of going out on a date with somebody else, this will show you that it is possible to have fun with another person. Date her a couple of times, then find another. Five dates and you won't care about your old girlfriend, because you have shown yourself that you can find someone like that <snaps fingers>. All too often people end up comparing their new date to the old GF/BF. Big mistake, you only remember the good things about the old one when you are missing them. As a way of prolonging the pain of the breakup, people also artificially limit themselves to only allowing themselves to date PhD nymphomaniac double-jointed supermodels. By setting an unattainable goal in a woman, the guy perpetuates the "she's the only one for me" spiral of misery. At some point you will feel anger toward her. Turn that negative energy into something positive through working out. A better body relieves stress and also helps with the new date department too. You won't lay awake at night thinking about her if you are physically exhausted either. It is possible for former lovers to be friends, but is very rare. The guy is often playing the buddy just for another opportunity to get back together, while the girl is just looking for a spare guy in case the new one doesn't work out. It would be difficult to ever sit across at a restaurant from her with your respective dates and discuss their honeymoon plans. Don't prolong the pain, just treat her time with you as a trial for the real woman that you will be with someday. You made all of your stupid mistakes with GF1, so you can be a better BF for GF2.
Thanks Tom. I live by this and I feel like you will too: It takes one second to meet someone, an hour to get to know then, one day to love them, and a lifetime to forget them Antony
Don't interfere with someone who is already involved with someone else. It ends up being pretty selfish and karma will bite you in the ass. If you really have feelings for someone, it's going to be pretty difficult being their friend. Just walk away and maybe things will change in the future.. but don't depend on that..
