Am I taking it too far???????

Do you have a hunch? Do you have a reason to be distrustful? Sometimes hunches turn out to be all too true. Other times, you are looking for reasons to be distrustful.

 

Confront her and straight up ask her if she did anything with him, that night or any other time. It will get it off your chest and either make or brake the relationship, but either way you'll be glad you did it.

 

Agree, you either CAN trust her,.........or you're done.....

You have kind of answered the question by having to ask it, you see?

OTOH, I'd follow very closely "the hunch"....as in, if she comes on to you all hot and bothered, it's unlikely she's been getting it elsewhere.......

You cannot follow them 24/7, so while it's ok to have the passing doubts, it's not ok to have them all the time. The BS about lights on door open all that sounds as if she's trying a lil' too hard with the 'harmless explanation".

In the end you probably cannot trust ANY of them.....LOL! No joke.

 

I'll offer one last thing before I slip out....

It'll be huge how you handle this, ok?

Play it out like "I wanted you to know how I feel about you, and this means alot to me, our relationship......" See what I mean?

It will be far better to express the unease as being on YOUR side of the fence, rather than "I think you been slippin' 'round on me you ^&%^&!"

Doing it that way could make her realize she's overlooked some of your feelings and could pay BIG dividends.."Oh, honey, I'm so sorry.....*smooch, smooch, smooch*"

I have learned after a LONG time it;s actually OK to talk with them honestly, and set aside manipulation and head games......scary stuff to hear, I know.....

 

If she wasnt doing anything she wouldnt feel guilty and have to give you any information. Guilt made her come to you. Even if she didnt do anything she was having impure thoughts.

But to my point. Leave it alone. Are you gonna marry her? or is she booty call? If shes booty call just play along and just keep banging away. If you are falling in love, well just know that shes a shady chick or your too posesive. Either way its not healthy, so bail.

or option "c".. distance yourself emtionally and bang away. I would take out some of that aggression. Maybe next time your doing her doggy, yank on her hair a little harder than normal and call her a little lying slut.. maybe hold the back of her head down before you blow a load in her mouth... LOL.

 

You say you've been dating for a year. Has she ever given you cause for concern before? When you first met her, was she in a relationship or unentangled? How did she break up from her prior relationship? People tend to behave the same way. If this is a one time thing, ignore it. If she was dating someone else while she met you and dumped them for you, figure she will do it the same way again.

 

hmmmm.
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Just make sure when she infoms you she is pregnant that you get a DNA test on the embryo prior to proposing.

She cheated on you and you allowed it, she now has you pegged as a desperate loser she can walk all over. You offer her stability in her mixed up life, but she does not appreciate your efforts by being faithful. I'd be afraid of catching AIDS from this woman, its bad enough you have to worry about past sexual partners, never mind present or future sex partners of hers.

 

Dude, whats her number.. I can talk to her and set her straight.

 

I agree 100% with Yin. Nearly all of the the women I have met (on the dating scene) had a new one lined up before they dumped the old one.

If they'll do it FOR you they'll do it TO you.

 

Eject. Cause if you don't you're gonna crash and burn.
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dump her, and post some good pics here !!!!

 

“Once a cheater, always a cheater”

Cheating in a relationship, is not really an “action”.
It’s a mind-set more than anything. Once someone realizes that they can cheat in one relationship, and come out with no consequences, they have tendancies to cheat again. Im not talking black and white here, as im sure that there are exceptions, but the general rule is, “Once a cheater, always a Cheater”.

What I suggest you do, is continue in this relationship. But start building relationships and friendships up with others, but not going onto the cheating side of things, just to be sure that you have something waiting if it all goes pear shaped. Not to be the rebound, but sometimes when you and your girl bust up, its good to be around other people. A lot of emotional scarring in people happens when they don’t spend time around different people after an event like this. It sort of reminds you that there are other women out there. And, then you will know not to make the same mistake again.

Basically, set yourself up for heartbreak. If it dosnt happen, that’s a bonus. But prepare for the worse. It will make it 1000% easier if it happens.

You have been together 1 year? That is a long time for a youngster. But just think, there are no children/houses/money and Ferrari’s involved in this. Take that info, and put it into perspective. Its not “that” bad. Really.

Put it this way. If you catch you girl cheating. BE HAPPY. She just did YOU a favor. Think about it.

 

dude call me at 213-213-9000 and we can talk about it.

 

Damn straight! How about a little consideration on her part? When was the last time SHE tested? How about YOU?

Do it NOW if you haven't. You'll sleep better................

 

On the other hand, if she really was messing around would she have allowed you to see ANY pictures at all?

 

She would, if she didn't respect him... which sounds likely IMO.

 

Well for one if those were digital photos they will have a time stamp on them from when they were taken.

 

Because she knew that there were other friends present that might talk about them being in the room alone? Obviously, whoever was the photographer "caught them".

It does seem more likely that nothing happened that night, between the other friends being present, the photos being taken, etc. You might try talking quietly to these other friends first before reaching any conclusions.