Dealing with a break up?

trust me man...u should not do all sort of that u just mentioned. if u tell her how much u miss her, etc, she'll know that ur really weak inside, and she could use that against u, i.e. making u jealous by chillin with other guys, etc. just be cool about it, and just talk about general stuffs if u need to talk to her.

 

Chris,

Think about this for a minute. You created this thread to get some advice from people who have been where you are before. You've gotten some great advice, yet you're ignoring what everyone is telling you. You're talking to this girl on the phone, chatting on the computer, etc. KNOCK IT OFF! Quit being her crutch and worry about yourself. That's not mean, it's just doing what you need to do to move on.

If you don't believe me, I'll take a stab at the future and you can revisit this thread to see if I was right.

She'll keep using you as her emotional crutch until she finds someone else (and she will find someone else).
She'll start talking with you less, while trying out this new relationship.
You find out she's dating someone new and are crushed.
You cling to her and she pushes you away because she doesn't need you as a crutch.
Her new relationship most likely sours after a bit.
She calls you back looking for support.
You answer the call and start the cycle over again.

 

ZIng!

+1000

 

bro, i know it's hard man. trust me, but it happens to everyone. u just need to pick urself up, be a man, and continue with life. girls come and go, it's a fact. i know it sounds mean, but it's a fact. u need to buck up bro, and stop feeling sorry for yourself. i know it's easy for me to sit here and tell u this, but u need to man. there's other things u gotta worry in life than a girl.

 

Class is now in Session.

SefacHotRodder - This is your Surprise Pre-MidTerm Exam. The question must be answered correctly in order for you to progress.

Q: A FELLOW F-CHATTER HAS JUST BROKEN UP WITH HIS TOTALLY AWESOME GIRLFRIEND OF ONE WHOLE YEAR - WHAT DO YOU ADVISE YOUR FELLOW F-CHATTER TO DO?

A:

 

Just because you and I don't always agree on politics, does not mean we couldn't run some ass together!!!

 

I think we can all agree on this one. Problem really is, if you took her back, how long till she does it again and it cost you a house?

One thing is certain, you will NEVER trust her again.

 

As much as you want to keep in touch, it will just delay and make things much harder. Ignore her , at least until you have feelings for another girl.

 

See how long i dragged myself into this

Started here :
http://ferrarichat.com/forum/showthread.php?t=168625&highlight=beat

to end here :

http://ferrarichat.com/forum/showthread.php?t=208426&highlight=end+friendship

 

If you keep talking to her, you're going to cave. I guarantee it. You think this is hard? Wait until she has you wrapped around her finger and then dates someone else. This will look like a vacation on the beach compared to that. Cut the cord. Repeat. Cut the cord.

 

I didnt go through this countles of times before it happened to me last year, i was never into serious relationships before that girl. And one month before breaking up we were talking about moving in together and even joking about babies name so it was veryhard for me. And one year later im still hurt. I didnt pick myself up in a week or a month, it took me 4 months to go out again and join the gym again ..

Unless you guys broke up for some really trivial reason, i would not consider getting back with her. It will just delay the inevitable.

 

No one is saying that this is easy. We've been there, and have all stared at the fork in the road that you're looking at now. Many of us have turned the wrong way, just like you're about to do. We've had experienced people tell us not to do it, but we went anyway. We found out that it was a very rough road, and we got banged up along the way. In the end, we survived and you will too. Just trying to save you a few more bumps and bruises, but you're hell-bent on taking those knocks. That's not a criticism, so don't take it that way. Some lessons have to be learned first-hand.

 

I would guess that many others reading this thread would disagree. Again, I don't mean that as an insult.

But you don't know what it's like to be with anyone else.

 

Do you want to pass or fail?

 

@@@@ DUDE SERIOUSLY @@@@

TAKE A TIME OUT!! REGROUP !

Any decision based upon emotion is a BAD DECISION!!!

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Everything in your posts is past-tense, which is also where your mind is. You can't go back two months, so you must look ahead to new experiences. You're being forced out of your comfort zone, but once you let go I believe that you'll be pleasantly surprised with what you find.

 

i m sorry to read this Chris, it s a bad time to have. All man have a moment like this one in this life...there s many questions and not no replies at the end it s just a silence.
Many people are happy to give you their ideas, in reality you want to hear what you need to hear. (do you understand what i mean?...my frenchglish)

Make you a reason, don t try to understand there s nothing to understand...if a woman said No, it s NO. that all...

Have a good time, try to go out, be positive, optimist, promptly you will find a New Woman to love.

 

all i can say, from my experience, getting back to her is the last thing u wanna do.

at the end of the day, the decision is yours. we can only advice.

you mentioned that this is the 1st time this thing is happening to you. well, it won't be your last. whatever ur decision is gonna be, whether to move on or to still linger and have thoughts on whetther to get back with her, you will learn from it. good luck mate.

 

Lesson learned - don't look at her facebook, don't do anything to remind you of her. One of my friends calls that "emotional terrorism."

Oh and if it makes you feel better, I got rejected several times yesterday. But I don't let that stop me... you gotta get out there and take care of yourself and run your own life. You are only a victim if you let yourself be one.

This'll make you a stronger, better, more suitable mate for someone even better in the future, even though it might not seem like that now.

 

Way to come to your senses!!!! Here's a pat on the ole back