Dealing with Break-ups

well my theory, your right hand is your best friend but the left is almost a perfect stranger.

 

Phuck her best friend and get a new sportscar. If you gave her a ring....get it back!

 

Go barhopping with Patrick Shim, he seems to get alot of attention from girls.

 

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Serious answer -- don't go chasing her.

Hang with your friends, pick up a new hobby, do something other than staying at home and thinking about the past. There's a lot of women out there, another one will come along eventually.

Beware the rebound, don't make life-changing moves right now.

 

It takes about 30 seconds to get over it.

Honest

 

F ucking other girls, jacking off, alcohol, and making myself hate the person. And if all else fails wait till she gets a boyfriend and then call her up and **** her and then tell the boyfriend about. Emotional pain last's longer than physical. I hate woman excpet for there ******s.

Edit: The filter on this website blanks out the word v agina ******.

 

This is my very short answer. It took a major blow in the relationships department to make me realize that no girl is worth crying over. When all hopes of salvaging a relationship fall into the toilet, its easy for me now, to just walk away.

At times I think I'm cold. I do, but I have an undestanding that I my mental state needs to be preserved, free from distraction to run operations at my work.

 

get a gym membership. Focus on yourself and take good care of yourself.

Work out and get in the best shape possible. Maybe buy some nice new clothes. Get out of the house and do things. Go out with your buddies, shoot pool, whatever....


one last thing.....AVOID ALL CONTACT WITH HER!!!!!! Doesn't have to be forever, but go at least a few weeks (if not a month or two) to let yourself cool off and stabilize.

 

Sorry to hear of that. Stay busy and try not sitting around moping about it. Booze will only make things worse. Most chicks will come around unless they've got something else on the go.

P.S. - always make sure you've got back up

 

My .02.

If she doesn't want to be with you, why even consider her at all? She obviously has moved on and you no longer enter her thoughts. Why pursue someone that has no interest in you. If you were together for 3 years, she knows you better than just about anyone else in the world. She knows enough to say she has no interest in you.

I hate to be crass, but screw her. She has seen you as you really are and she finds you lacking. Move on.....date gorgeous women and have some fun.


I think Darth had the best advice. Bang her best friend.

 

I'm black and white on this issue:

1) DON'T go back!
2) Stay busy. The hurt goes away with time.
3) Your next girlfriend will be a better one.
4) Lose 20 pounds and send her a picture of you at the gym!
5) Listen to Darth50!

 

I was in a similar situation...dated seriously a girl for 2 great years. Once she dumped me I was pretty crushed. Unfortunately it took me forever to get over her completely (Id say about a year). Recovery all depends on the circumstances though...I saw this girl all day, every day at school and still talked to her as a friend. That made it even more tough to break away.

That said, I would NOT become enemies with her...can do more harm than good. Talk casually a few times a month once things settle down and you will be a much happier man than a man with tons of ex girlfriends running around as your enemies.

She broke up with me a few years ago but just last week in fact I had dinner with her and it was pleasant to catch up on old times.

So you will recover soon enough. Like others said, dont go chasing after her or telling yourself that you will do anything to get her back. Dont change who you (in a bad way) to try and please her and win her back...chances are it wont happen. Meanwhile, try and surround yourself with your closest friends as much as possible...have a lot of outlets to vent your feelings...dont cram them up inside. It might even be a good idea to talk to a therapist for a few weeks.

Good luck

 

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Sorry man....... that sucks.

The fastest way to get over her is date someone else. So give it a little time..... hang with friends and meet someone else. Even if you guys do end up getting back together, this will be good for you.

Good luck

 

They are all the same. Only thier names are different.

 

Keep your head up. Befor elong you will wonder why you aere even hurt and it will be thrilling to be free. Like Tillman said, do not chase her. That is what she wants you to do and it is a BIG mistake. You don't want to hang around long enough to see her start dating again. Lick your wounds. Use thistime for a little reflection and growth and possibly go and talk to some other women. That always helps to get the confidence back up. Don't try to jump back inot full time dating too fast. But don't above all things keep in contact with her. Best of luck.

 

Thus whats the problem? ... obviously not the one then.

Either she would understand, OR you would put her first.

Pete

 

Are you sure that you want her back is what you need to ask yourself. Get back out there and see what's around. You never know, you might find someone that understands that your work is important to you and accepts that fact and realizes it's not about not loving her but about having a life long goal you want to achieve (i'm guessing this is the case). I don't know the whole story but while yes, you could have devoted more attention to her you needed to find out why it was that she needed it.She might have felt unloved or as if you didn't need her. Sounds like a basic communication problem that could have been solved if caught in time.That being said, she's probably still upset at you and will need time herself, for this reason it's best to hang back a little. Doing something rash now will not help the situation.

 

I hate to say it, but I was in a very similar situation to yours a handful of years ago. The business just took up too much of my time. I thought it would clear up, but it just didn't. The breakup was quite devistating to me and even the business suffered greatly from it. I will say this, I still think about her every day. Not good, not healthy... but that was _the one_ that got away.

edit: as for suggestions - time time time. You are quite young and there are life experiences out there to happen. If you look back and think about her, think of the good times, and know that things had to move on into two different directions.

 

Hunter Thompson always said "If you love something, let it go...if it doesn't come back, hunt it down and kill it."

 

This wasn't the one for you then. When that person finally comes along, you'll be shocked to realize how much time has passed when you get with that person. Thats the one you need to hold onto.

For now, do everything you used to do, and wanted to do, without any guilt. If she tries to smooth things over or makes any attempts at communication, you probably won't, but DO NOT RESPOND.

Got friends? Use 'em.

Sunny

 

Dude, you live in Montreal. Go to Central Station or 1234 on a Saturday night or better yet, go to Solid Gold and have a brief affair with a French stripper/slapper.