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Will be praying for you. My parents went through a similar situation about a year and a half ago, although not as severe. We wound up keeping an 8 month old boy for a week or so at a time, months apart, until he was probably a year and a half. Our pastor kept his older brother. The mom was the same story, drugs, alcohol, dated a ex-cons, etc. Was hard to see him go, and his older brother didn't want to leave where he was. You are right, being a mom and a mother are two different things, but I also have to remember that they need God's grace just as much as we and the children do. Hope everything works out.

 

Best of luck to you in a tough time, let's all pray for the kids, they suffer the most through these situations.

 

I can only imagine how heartbroken you and your wife must be. Best wishes to you both in this difficult time.

Unfortunately I am terrified for the innocent children. I fear they may have missed their chance at a healthy, happy, and safe life.

Deepest soorow and sympathy to all involved.

 

if the mother is unfit in the eyes of the state , would you be able to take care of them while she seeks counciling or rehab? surely the children suffer the most in these situations.

how is she able to provide for the children? does she have a steady job, any medical benefits? seems the state would / remand temporary custudy to you and your wife while the mother seeks help, IF she wants help.

i do not condone anyone loosing thier children, but i wonder how well she will be able to care for them.

sad for you.

michael

 

Wow. My wife and I will be praying for you, as well. With that said, we will also lift up these children and this mother that has lost her way. Perhaps God will deliver her from the sin that is causing her to neglect herself and her children. God is able to save her. Jesus did come to seek and to save that which was lost. Man, your story make me weep, too.

In Christ

Ric

 

i'm amazed that she would still have legal custody of them.

 

I guess "everyone knows it" and "proving it" are just two different things.

 

Do you know anyone that has a high position with the government? That could be a big help. It seems unfair, but when you know someone with a high position in government things can 'get done' real quick, if you know what I mean.

With that said, and not knowing your situation fully, have you considered adoption in China? There are a lot of baby girls that go unwanted there. I think the cost can run to 15-20k per child. There is a tax credit for adoption that equals
10,630, per child, for tax year 2005. It is probably higher for 06 and 07 and so on. So, if you spent 30k adopting two children, you would offset the cost, in 2005 #s, with a $21,260 tax credit! Net cost, $8,740. The same credit is available for domestic adoption, as well. I just wanted to put that out there. I am not trying to sway you in any way. I hope you continue to seek guidance from the One who knows the thoughts of all men.

Ric

 

Tragic. Thoughts and prayers.

 

If you are crying because you fear that the kids are going to be in a bad situation, then you have my sympathy. Just make sure that you put their needs ahead of yours, even if it hurts you (sorry).

It also probably means that you are being saved to do something even more important for someone who needs you even more. Be patient and optimistic...ready for your next test of life.

 

yeah, thats always a b!tch.

I'm really sorry, just hope for the best! Who knows, maybe you'll get a special Christmas gift?

 

Sorry to hear of your loss, but Chris has a good point.

 

Dont give up hope as yet. odds are this saga isnt over. Im sure legally, you maybe able to prove that she is unfit, you should contact you're local state rep, or talk to a lawyer and see if you have better options. Dont give up on these kids just yet.

 

If you want to write the mom a letter, just let her know that she can always count on you to help her kids if they need it.

That's probably the one thing that she's never had: someone dependable/available.

Show a little selfless love and the willingness to make the effort and she'll make the right call whichever way that might be one day.

Sorry to hear about your additional troubles, but keep in mind that bad things are supposed to happen to us on this Earthly planet. It's not our time for perfection, yet.

 

It is really a shame for the children. This may also be one of her games to extort you. I hope she is not trying to use them to get more drugs. I'm sure you would of tried to be good to the children and that they would of had a shot a leading a normal life. Be patient and maybe something will work out. Don't give her money.

 

It is really a shame for the children. This may also be one of her games to extort you. I hope she is not trying to use them to get more drugs. I'm sure you would of tried to be good to the children and that they would of had a shot a leading a normal life. Be patient and maybe something will work out. Don't give her money.

 

Anything is possible in a situation like this. Maybe the woman will see the light yet.

 

You and all involved will have my thoughts and prayers.

Patrick