Yeah but they may end up like this: http://www.traveladventures.org/continents/asia/images/cycle-rickshaw-riders06.jpg
What a great response. I think what a lot of everyone has said on Asian women has been pretty well near to the one I'm currently seeking to date. However, because so, I'm wondering if anyone knows how Vietnamese women click, or what their culture goes by in a relationship. As many have said about other Asians, she is waiting to know me more, and seems happy to please me. She also doesn't date very often as many have recalled, and she does like older guys, but hasn't held a relationship b/c of their actual goal for the girl (i.e. get in her pants). But, being born here & from the facts I have learned, she also may be a bit of a princess which leads me to another question. How are the in-laws, particularly, the fathers of Asian women? Are they just as protective as many American fathers, or are they glad their daughter just met someone?
They tend to be clingy and most are "package deals"! Even though my wife has a degree in business management, she still (to this day) have low self esteem and is very "dependent" of me. I guess it's my fault though as I baby her and treat her as my queen every chance I get. Her mother, sister, niece and nephew lives in one of our house in Manila. Again, it was my choice as I would rather have family members looking after the property anyways. Her mother comes to stay with us during the warmer seasons and her other siblings tend to rely on me (for financial stuff) whenever they're in a bind. I dont really mind as the businesses they're in are partially mine anyways. Plus its cheaper to employ family! Wouldn't change anything about it though. Atleast now we have a couple of built in baby sitters (niece and nephew lives with us permanently now) whenever my wife and I decides to do stuff.
Fathers as far as Chinese goes, are numero uno, IMO they are more protective than American fathers. If there father says jump, they ask how high.
My wifes parents came here last year planing to stay with us for 1 year, it didn't work out as we thought. They got bored as hell in the first place and just weren't used to staying in the house for any length of time. The second thing that was really bad was the language barrier between her parents and I. The days that I would work night shift I would get out of bed around 12:30 and Jennifer would be at work, I guess you can see where this is going. They would set downstairs with me and talk, Victor and I would be off in our own little world. That was a problem, so they ended up staying about 2.5 months. We are talking about having them come again, hopefully this time things will turn out a lot better for us.
Lucky for me my in-law speaks portuguese (my dad is a mix of Portuguese and Filipino!) and is quite articulate with the english language. She was an english professor in her days at the local university in the Philippines and was married to a politician. I dont know why they never took the opprtunity to travel abroad during her father's glory days. I speak a little Filipino (mostly bad words, thanks to my numb-skulled cousins! ) and my wife has tons of Filipina friends who are quite active in the Filipino community. They tend to "look after" my mom-in-law and take her to play "mahjong" 3 times a week. They also have a program in Vancouver that my wife likes to take her mother to. It is specifically engineered towards older Filipina women and they have various activities that they all seem to enjoy. It maybe possible that you or your wife connect with a local group and find activities for them to do in your community. I do hope that things work out for you the second time around. Best of luck buddy!
I guess Mahjong is pretty popular all through Asia then? Jennifer has friends over sometimes and they play and they play and they play and they play! They try and teach me how to play it, I get really confused with the characters and when to yell "pung"! Right, I haven't really met to many Asian's that were "westernized" but the ones hat I have met are about 25% Asian and the rest American, sometimes that mix is ok, but for the most part it isn't, especially to there parents.
My mom-in-law says that she loves me too much therefore she wont teach me the game! Most of them hang out with ricers at the local "in 'n out", Yoshinoya's and/or audio garages.
I got to thinking of this thread a little more today after watching one of those brides show that my cousin was watching. It is crazy how controlling, demanding, *****y, and free-spending these women were (they weren't wealthy by any means). Budgets were pretty much exceeded. Looking it up online, the average wedding in 2005 was nearing $30,000 (http://money.cnn.com/2005/05/20/pf/weddings/). I'm guessing that number is higher going into at least 2007. That could buy a down payment or a nice investment. Is getting married even worth it now? I know that great, classy, women do exist, but it seems to be a small minority these days. Hell, I see a close family member marry a girl a few years ago (I care and love her and all that), but I know that I couldn't date someone with her personality (she's very head-strong, he wanted to buy a fixer-upper and fix it up as time goes, she wanted to buy a completely re-done house, while beautiful, that costs quite a bit. He makes good money, but still). Also, does sex become a weapon these days? Does frequently drop as much as the jokes claim in marriage? Is it due to real reasons, or is just the idea of women getting comfortable now that they are married? Do foreign women view sex in a different manner in a serious relationship/marriage in comparison to western/US women?
All I can say is that no matter who or where your bride came from, it's always best to crack the whip early on in the relationship! My first wife was a jewish princess and wanted everything her way but I told her that I make the money, I pay for everything so I have the final say. Dont get me wrong, I babied the hell out of her but in the end, she became too controlling so I kicked her to the curb! Second wife was my first's best friend! I married her only to spite my first. Again, her head got way too big to even fit the cars I bought her so she too got kicked to the curb! My third (and hopefully the final one!) wife is everything I dreamt of! Very third world old fashioned, super charming, sexy as hell, and a tiger in bed! She is a great mother to our kids and even to my first born from the first marriage. She deserves to be treated well as she never once took me for granted. She was there through everything and had stuck by my side without even flinching. Call me old fasioned but none of my wives worked while they were with me and my wife now will never have to work at all! She does have a small business of her own that I set up for her only because I want to teach her to be independent if for some reason something happens to me. I dont want her to end up like my ex's and have to whore themselves out to get treated the same way I treated them. They were my queens at one point but they abused what I gave them. As far as sex being a weapon, all of my wives know/knew that I dont have to have sex with them if they didn't want to. They know/knew that I could easily go and get it somewhere else if they were to use sex as a way to negotiate. But you know what, I will train my daughter to be as shrewd as I am and not have to rely on a man to give her what she wants or needs. Moral of the story is, it's almost always the guy's fault that the GF's or wives or significant others develope a negative attitude. I dont condone spousal abuse but there has to only be one controller in a relationship and that has to be the man!!! Its the way God intended it to be!
I have a question for you guys, I was wondering if you have ever heard of anyone staying together just because they had a son and or daughter and didn't want to put the kids through the hell of a divorce?
Been there, done that! It turned out to be more damaging for the kid. Kids can pick up on things that we try to hide from them. We found out (my first wife and I) from the school psychiatrist that our son was too depressed because of what me and his mom were going through. So finally, I stepped in and filed for divorce citing irreconcilleable differences. My son turned out stronger in the end.
WOW, that must have been really hard to go through for so long until you guys realized that it was better to separate? I apologize in advance if I am getting a little to personal.........
here's another tidbit for those who don't know or are oblivious I have a friend who is Russian. She came here and married a guy who is a doctor. She doesn't work. She is just about to leave him. She's packing her stuff, and going back to Russia. If he is lucky, she won't take half his stuff. The main problem is that she feels marginalized and lonely here. Consider that when a foreign woman comes here -She doesn't know anyone -She is in a place where she doesnt know the customs or how things are done -Whatever education she has is likely largely useless. She could be a lawyer or engineer in her homeland, but here that degree is largely worthless unless you want to go back to school -She likely doesn't speak perfect English and people tend to treat you like you're an idiot. But she isn't. She has her opinions and ideas like anyone. If the conversation can't be at a level higher than the weather and such, it will be a problem. This particular woman's husband treats her like she is worthless. He makes sure he is in charge. He does not do anything she wants to do, unless it is what he wants to do anyway. The latest thing is he wants to move house... she doesn't want it (she has just established a few friends in her place). He said "too bad, we're moving". IMO, there is a character flaw in men who desire a woman to be subservient to them, to cook and clean and be a housewife and to treat their husband as some sort of master. If you put a woman into that situation, she isn't going to take it for long. Furthermore, if you put a pretty young woman into such a situation with a guy who normally couldn't get a woman as young and attractive, it's only a matter of time before she up and leaves. People are people, anywhere in the world. A woman from some poor town in Russia is only going to stay with a guy who is below her usual standards and who treats her like a slave for a short time before she figures out that she can do better, and move on. Relationships really must be based on love and mutual respect. If they are not, they fail.
Sex is different with a foreign wife, to them it is their part of keeping the marriage happy. Asian culture don't view sex as a weapon of misery, more of an outlet for promotion. Giving the husband candy and you will have a sweet husband in return. No complaints here, ready to go at the drop of a hat.
I used to buy mine roses for special occasions and she told me don't waste the money, she is happier if I buy her a new chopping block for the kitchen. Spent $5k on a diamond for her and she said that I don't need to buy her such things to show my feelings, she prefers going for a walks and talking more sincere a feeling that a rock.
The party girl thread got me looking back to this thread. One of the quotes was, and I agree with, was that the under 40 (I would say even 50) has class of a microwave burrito. Is this the same all over the world? In the way they act, dress, and speak?
