Here's a new one: How do you know when your GF is going to breakup with you?

When her head turns to a Miata.

 

Excellent news for me lol!!!

 

Q: What is the one food you can give a women that will stop her from wanting to have sex with you?

A: Wedding cake

 

LOL. Wouldn't it be fantastic if women aged like a fine Noir.

I met my wife of 11 years when she was 15, with charms to make Venus herself jealous.
5'9 115lbs size 0 the nectar of the gods

but to answer OP's question. any type of dramatic change in "normal" behavior and odd upkeep all of the sudden. i.e. starts going to gym, waxes her entire putang daily when U only have sex once a week, dyes hair weird color etc etc.

 

The car racer analogy is very good. Like you said, one person controls the relationship. If they are doing an acceptable job, both parties are content, more or less.

It is when they don't know what they want, or how to convey what they want, or are an emotional black hole that can never be filled or satisfied that the problems start. To continue the car analogy, fighting with some are like playing chicken, only you know they will never, ever, turn the wheel. So your choice is either refuse to do it or know you will have a car crash. Mine is like this, any disagreement turns into a huge fight, so dealing with people like this you are constantly asking whether this particular disagreement is worth it. usually it isn't and you get bulldozed.

I may be single again in a few weeks, a big event for my daughter this week and then it is just waiting for the next unacceptable blowup from my wife for the come to Jesus meeting we will have to have. Her infantile behavior and emotional abuse is only getting worse, at least now I understand the why of her actions (adopted with sh*tty absent adoptive parents are a double-whammy). I know what it is called, and I know the prospects for her to ever trule change are very remote.

http://shrink4men.wordpress.com/2009/01/13/how-to-deal-borderline-personality-woman/
http://shrink4men.wordpress.com/2009/09/28/why-couples-counseling-rarely-works-with-narcissistic-and-borderline-women/
http://www.shrink4men.com/2012/06/06/winning-vs-taking-what-does-winning-mean-to-abusive-high-conflict-andor-personality-disordered-women/

So I guess it will be my behavior she notices as different. I just have to stick to my boundaries. It is going to be a rough fall and winter.

 

Any update?

 

If a big reason she was with you is because you could afford to pay for her be damn glad you got out. Sounds like a woman with zer goals, drive, work ethic and sadly a glorified whore. Any man that feel like a man because he can afford to have such a person round them too needs to take a good hard look in the mirror too.

I've harbored such feeling for a long time ad wouldn't really give the time of day to any woman who couldn't take care of herself, or wouldn't. I'm damn lucky to have finally met a worthwile women who can take care or herself and always will and would never dream of leaching off of me, no desire to ge married either!!! Trust me, its definitely worth holding out for a capable women rather than one you can save and take care of. My pride and self worth is in me, not who I can take care of. That doesn't make a man.

Good luck

 

Even when they can take care of themselves they still want the "idea" of security/safety that comes most often by way of your finances.

 

They just want to spend your money too

If say she makes 100k and is more than capable of taking care of her self and you make 100k aswell, to her that 200k she can now spend :-\

 

update????

 

Hahahaha nice.

A few more signs:

- Unusual activities..hanging out with "friends" a lot more or "working late".
- Talking more to family and friends, and acting weird when you suddenly get in the hearing zone

I'm always amazed how some people don't see this coming..
A friend of mine had his wife just get up and leave with his dog and car one day with no prior notice or "signs"..that's just hard to believe. (it does suck though)

 

I just saw this thread.... what ended up happening?

I can say that a lot can be accomplished if you just communicate openly. But I'm no expert. I'm a woman who never wanted to get married who is married to a man who never wanted to get married.

 

If she's honest, articulate and fair - then yes. If she's not, you'll never know what her real response is (and in fact gives her the upper hand).