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How can I justify a Ferrari to my wife.

Discussion in 'Ferrari Discussion (not model specific)' started by Simon99, Jan 4, 2021.

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  1. chekraze

    chekraze Rookie

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    I’ve only read up to this point in this long thread but it’s important what you said about the fact you’re buying something you have a a passion for and will give you joy. That’s worth a lot and ideally all spouses would understand that. On our deathbed we won’t remember the $250K we “saved” not buying a Ferrari but we sure as hell will remember the Ferrari ownership experience. It’s probably been said but it’s also worth pointing out to your wife that it’s likely your car will go up in value therefore you have the Ferrari experience at no cost. Not many people are in that position. Oh well will continue reading the thread hoping it has a happy ending
     
  2. chekraze

    chekraze Rookie

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    Funny I told my wife the same thing. And it’s true. A Ferrari is an art form yet so much more. Even if I was the only one who saw it I’d be content. She actually had a better understanding of my position wanting the car. 458 is my grail car.
     
  3. Bigfisher89

    Bigfisher89 Karting

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    Everyone has a wife, but not everyone has a ferrari
     
  4. SVanDyck

    SVanDyck Formula Junior

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    Start off from something that is approved already like “I decided to buy a Ferrari instead of Porsche”

    Then explain Ferrari approved car from dealership with creative Ferrari financing.

    Then explain ordering new car from factory and have zero depreciation, rinse repeat.

    If she still says no say, “you worry too much it will be fine” then go and buy it.

    Also, is she worried about a large amount of cash used or monthly budget increasing, again Ferrari creative financing.

    Full disclosure. I am not married.
     
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  5. FerrariCognoscenti

    FerrariCognoscenti Formula 3

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    No man should have to justify anything to a woman.

    She should be thankful she’s married to someone capable of owning a Ferrari.
     
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  6. paulchua

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    Some seek partnerships, others prefer dependents.
     
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  7. Simon99

    Simon99 Karting

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    Well I'm back, 3 years later, after starting this thread. Thank you to everyone that replied. Very helpful, insightful and in some cases, hilarious. All is well 3 years later. My wife is used to the 308. She's driven it at the track and enjoyed it. We've been to many Ferrari Club events together. It is now just "the red car". I even bought a factory to store it, along with other toys.

    There's just one problem.

    I want a Testarossa.

    I willl post a new thread, "How can I justify a second Ferrari to my wife."
     
  8. TexasMike

    TexasMike F1 World Champ

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    I like this thread & it will give me some enjoyment & ideas as I read through all the posts. I'm currently prepping my wife for when I buy a Ferrari. She's completely against it & thinks I'm crazy but I already let her know I'm going to do it. As we are looking at new homes I make the driveway & garage the main focus & always say stuff like "my Ferrari will look real nice parked under that drive through portico". I tried to tell her if I buy the correct car at the correct time then it will most likely go up in value, or at least loose very little. She doesn't believe that at all. Luckily for me before my wife & I got married she said she wanted to keep our finances separate, so we always have. She thought that I was poor when we got together because I was driving a beater BMW E30. So it's my money & I can buy it if I want to but I know she will still complain about it. I'm trying to find ways to mitigate the complaining. I honestly think she will probably refuse to even ride in it. It will be interesting to see how it plays out.
     
  9. Ngcanada

    Ngcanada Formula Junior

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    Oooff, sounds like you have your hands full in this debate. She will get over it.
     
  10. Pwillemse78

    Pwillemse78 Karting

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    That’s a nice way of putting it.
    I prefer an equal partnership over someone that adores me for my business succes. I don’t see how that can ever lead to anything. Thankfully everyone is different.
     
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  11. paulchua

    paulchua Cat Herder
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    My response may be seen as a judgement call. Not intended. Sometimes I rent, sometimes I buy, the key is knowing which is appropriate in any given situation. Family definitely falls in the latter in my humble opinion.
     
  12. Pwillemse78

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    Yeah It did read like that. Thx for clarifying.
     
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  13. paulchua

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    Apologies, it’s inappropriate for me to judge anyone’s personal choices and life that has no bearing on me. Put another way, I sincerely haze zero, absolutely null, nill, negative opinions on Leonardo de Caprio, on the contrary, I think he’s one chap that figured a lot out.
     
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  14. GrigioGuy

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    Forgiveness, not permission. Life is short.
     
  15. LVP488

    LVP488 F1 Veteran

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    Going to some "Ferrari events" could be the opportunity to offer enjoyable experiences for someone who's not really motivated by driving or owning a Ferrari.
     
  16. FF4X4

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    I am sorry to say this but it does not sound like a marriage to me.
     
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  17. GrigioGuy

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    On second reading I saw the line "Luckily for me before my wife & I got married she said she wanted to keep our finances separate, so we always have." She's abandoned any right to fuss about your financial choices. If she's not a full partner, do what you want. Don't worry about complaints, they burn out eventually.
     
  18. JSwan724

    JSwan724 Karting

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    Buy her one.
     
  19. TexasMike

    TexasMike F1 World Champ

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    No need to be sorry. We have a unique relationship.
     
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  20. TexasMike

    TexasMike F1 World Champ

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    Very true & I remind her of that. It's all good though because she knows & accepts that I can do what I want with my finances. I pay all the bills & keep improving our lifestyle, so she can't complain at all. At this point it's really more of a joke than anything. She never thought I would have money to buy a Ferrari & it's only been within the last year that she realizes I have the ability to buy one if I want to. We have been through a lot together & we would never split up under any circumstances whatsoever, so our relationship is very strong regardless of our slight disagreements when it comes to money. We have a son with medical needs which keeps us focused on what's really important. My decision to purchase a Ferrari can not affect our lifestyle or medical needs, which is shouldn't.
     
  21. Dolcevita

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    Could do what I did. She and my daughter went to visit family in Italy. While she was away I bought a Ferrari. I joined them in Italy and when we were returning to our home in Canada, before I opened the garage door, I said " There's something you should know"
     
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