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how did you get your wife to agree buying a Ferrari?

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  1. plankeracer

    plankeracer Rookie

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    My wife is my biggest problem when it comes to buying my first Ferrari.
    What did you guys do to convince your wife?
     
  2. PV Dirk

    PV Dirk F1 Veteran

    Jul 26, 2009
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    I looked at cars on the internet constantly for years. About 4 times a week I'd being my computer over to her and say "isn't it cute, can I buy it?" After about 6 months she always said sure and I never purchased one. So one day I find the Mondial and say the same thing to her. She said yes. She was a bit surprised when I went to get the cashiers check but she sees how much I enjoy the car and is fine with it. She doesn't like riding in my Ferrari but does like cars. She has made it clear that the next one is a Porsche for her.

    Good luck. Some guys never get the nod or their women resent the car. And I know I tricked my wife but I had also purchased her a new car a few months earlier that she had wanted for a long time.

    For me, I love all cars and have had many cars. I explain that owning a Ferrari is the crowning moment for a car lover and a high personal honor for me. She is good with it.
     
  3. PV Dirk

    PV Dirk F1 Veteran

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    Share your wifes specific objections so that we may be able to address them. There are many reasons for objecting to a Ferrari. I think they are all misguided :D but they are there.
     
  4. ulf rickard

    ulf rickard Formula Junior

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    don´t tell her at first and when she discover ...... smoothen her up with a shoping trip to Paris, and take the cost as maintanence/carrelated .... thats the only way, especially if it is the third och fourth car in the stable,. After that they cant keep track on every car.

    Also let her drive it sometimes to her friends, to work and to get the kids from school.

    One of the toycars must be a 2 + 2 so her friends can go with her sometimes, Best thing is to always have a reasonably prices 2+2 car for her to use as she wish and of course all costs on You. You don´t have to change it, the girls do like to use the same car for several years. For example Maserati 4200, Ferrari Mondial, Jaguar XK, Aston DB7, Porsche 996

    After over 30 years of sportscar ownership and a couple of wifes later I´ve learned the best way to ease things up

    Good luck !
     
  5. toggie

    toggie F1 World Champ
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    #5 toggie, Mar 4, 2012
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    See if there is a Ferrari owners organization you can join in Norway, perhaps the FCA.
    Take her to a couple of those events.
    She'll discover that owning a Ferrari is also a fun way to meet people and enjoy their friendship.

    Perhaps also get her signed up here on FerrariChat under her own user name.
    She may have some fun meeting the Ferrari owners on here.

    I "convinced" my wife by being a life-long car nut.
    I went from buying Corvettes to buying Ferraris instead starting about 12 years ago.
    It wasn't too hard back in 1993 to talk my wife into letting me buy a new 93 ruby red 40th anniversary Corvette convertible.
    I guess that first Corvette was my "gateway drug" to owning a Ferrari one day. :)

    My wife now is an avid fan and enjoys our cars and going to the local FCA events and Cars & Coffee gatherings.
    She even drives our 550 to some of the closer events.

    Good luck.
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  6. sindo308qv

    sindo308qv F1 Rookie

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    If she objects because it's going to stress your personal finances, or provide for your family, I would agree with her. But if everything is covered and you are able to afford it, just buy it. Believe me, once she sees the car she'll love it. But...... don't start going out constantly without her or she'll think something is going on. My wife knew my passion for Ferrari's and she only encouraged me to get one, and she got into the whole social scene like car meets, dinners, etc. Bottom line, don't deny yourself your pleasure.
     
  7. WILLIAM H

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    You don't really NEED a wife :)
     
  8. Piper

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    The main thing in my case was that I was meeting all obligations to the family, and had few other guilty pleasures, wasn't spending much else on myself. Buying cars in many families is a joint decision, but in our home, her car is her choice, mine are my own. It wasn't up for discussion, due not to an absence of respect, but the presence of mutual respect. All families are different. Don't know if this helps.
     
  9. vrsurgeon

    vrsurgeon F1 World Champ
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    I wore her down.. took a year but I did it until she finally asked me regarding my car "did you buy it?" I basically had to show her that this was something that I really wanted.

    I had to explain the finances and how we could easily afford it. I think that's where most of the reasonable objection comes from. If she still objects even after you make it abundantly clear that it's affordable, then it starts sounding like a power and control thing... and I'm not even going to go there...
     
  10. beachmk4

    beachmk4 Formula Junior

    Mar 2, 2012
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    Having just gone through this experience let me give you a bit of insight. First, make sure you have your current (daily driver, fun car etc.) sold if that is your intent. If you do not have to give up a car good for you. Secondly, make sure she gets anything she wants! This car cost me new drapes and bedspread for the master bedroom and a new gate at the end of the driveway!!! I'll make that trade any time. As long as Mama's happy, everybody's happy.
     
  11. sindo308qv

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    LOL!
     
  12. rcm360

    rcm360 Formula Junior

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    It is easier to beg for forgiveness than ask permission. However, I was not married when I owned mine.
     
  13. 2000YELLOW360

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    Told her it was a loaner.

    Art
     
  14. Bundy

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    I waited over a decade to scratch the Ferrari itch. By then, we had been married for 14 years, and she knew we could easily afford it. She was then actually pushing me to get one, no strings attached.

    However, when I bought another one just a few months later, she did calmly and successfully state that it was also time to build the pool and outdoor pizza oven that she had always wanted. Good negotiating skills. Pool construction starts in 2 weeks.
     
  15. glob1971

    glob1971 Formula Junior

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    I am a Ferrari fan since my childhood. My wife was pushing me to buy one (but was against, i thought it was so unreasonable...) and she gave me a F430 test drive for my 40th birthday. I ordered my first Ferrari 3 months later. It makes me love my wife even more !
     
  16. mmollo

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    Buy two, one for her and one for you. Problem solved.
     
  17. Hawkeye

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    This
     
  18. Texasfly

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    Take her to test drive a brand new Porsche type-991 Carrera S ... have the salesman price it out with all of the desirable options ... while she is still reeling from "sticker shock", mention the huge first year depreciation hit the Porsche will take ... and as she nods in agreement and is still in awe at the price of the Porsche, take her over to see a 2007 or so low-mileage F430, take her for a spirited drive, and while she is romanced by the scent of fine leather and the sound of the V-8 at 5000 rpm, lovingly explain to her that for about the same price, and without the significant first year depreciation, you "both" (lots of emphasis here) can own a very unique and enticing piece of automobile art! Works better if you follow up with a trip to Victoria Secret with a healthy budget. Boom - you are done.
     
  19. Piper

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    Oh snap, helluva idea. On the list for as soon as business is re-secured and life moving forward, we have a few outdoor projects. Near the back patio, we have planned building out some gas burning items, stubbed out for them a decade ago. We're gonna do a gas generator and mega grill in a finished, bricked enclosure and run the gas in series from that to an outdoor fireplace on the patio. The pizza oven is a GREAT idea, GREAT. Great thing about a pizza oven is far less mess, whole different selection of potential food items to be prepared. Very, very cool.
     
  20. plastique999

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    Ferrari is her dream car....so she had no problem supporting me.
    But the Fchat addiction, that's another story....she thinks I have a real problem with that.
    Need help....Fchat Anonymous
     
  21. toggie

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    No cure for spending too much time on fchat - it's an incurable disease. :)
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  22. ZINGARA 250GTL

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    Since I've had a Ferrari (Lusso) way before I met my wife and several sports cars in between while owning the Lusso, I sold the Lusso and bought a 360. After a time we both decided it was not right for us. We test drove a 575M and that did it. Now, we are both thinking of a 599 as an upgrade though the 575 has no issues. The touring car is what seems right for us.
     
  23. Formula Uno

    Formula Uno F1 Veteran

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    Fellas,

    Sorry to say this, but I think that this thread is PATHETIC! Sorry to offend some of you but the rhetoric here is embarrassing.

    Do you really have to "ask/beg" your wife if it's "OK with her" to buy or do something that is so important to you??

    I worked like a dog my entire life to live the lifestyle that I enjoy now and I take very good care of my family... I will know that it is OVER for me if the day comes that I have to "ask" my wife's permission to buy something that I want.

    Has the "Moderrn American Male" become this emasculated???
     
  24. bball16

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    My wife and I have been married 26 years and neither one of us have ever questioned the other's purchases. I dont get it. If your married don't you each trust each other enough to let them do what they want? I mean she knows I'm sensible and I know she is. She knew I was looking for one and has said for years that I was a " car guy". She wasn't surprised at all when she came home one day and found it in the garage. No strings attached. That's why we have been together for so long.
     
  25. cheesey

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    tell her you will cut the sex back to twice a day...allowing her some more space if you have a diversion :=)
     

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