How do you end up a friendship ?

Ditto, seeing her, talking to her won't ease the pain, it may just make things harder for both of you. Been there, done that more than a couple of times.

Fade away..........then come out my way and a few of us can have a few beers!

 

well, if it was a bitter breakup, it's best to delete all contacts numbers, emails, etc.

just move on and don't think about her, etc. total ignorance. iknow it's easier said then done, but, i find it quite difficult to become friends with an ex.

 

Before I (we) can effectively answer your question and give sound advice, we must first know WHY you broke up in the first place...

Did she break it off with you or was it you who gave her the axe???

 

My girlfriend of two years and I broke up last week. We got along really well. We had only been in one argument the whole time we had been together. So I'm in the same boat as you. But, I will not be friends with her. It would be too hard. I'm only 33 years old and have it pretty good so I will bounce back. I don't know how you could break it to her, but I definatly think you should move on. It's been a year and you sound like you are still hung up on this girl. Out of sight out of mind my friend.

 

33? your too late mate..............




























j/k. have a nice weekend, all heart break kids

 

Wow that went well. Fight the urge. Find a new one Have a shot or something...haha.

 

Keep yourself occupied. Go jogging, go to the gym, drive your Porsche, etc.

 

Nothing stupid, now
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Wow, that's tough. Now go plan a vacation to keep your mind occupied.

 

Don't do it!

If you want her back, going to her won't work. Be cool and leave her alone; if she has any spark left for you she'll realize it and come to you.

Whatever you do, don't act like her 'puppy dog' who wants to come whimpering home. If you do, she'll work you over time and time again!

I know how you feel Andrew, it hurts and most of us have been in the same situation, me more than once. I feel bad for you, but you WILL get over her in time and the pain will diminish.

Be strong.............

 

EXACTLY !

I would not 'cut it off', but I would say we need to move on. Unless you have kids involved, it is best to move on, or you might just end up remarried to her.
Don't laugh - I know at least 3 guys that have remarried their ex's 2-5 years after their divorce(s).

All you need to be is 'less available'.
It might hurt, it WILL hurt, but if you need to move on, you have to make some hard choices.

 

I agree. Keeping busy is the best thing for you. Take a trip if you can or something just to get away and into a different environment.

I have an ex that I am still friends with. I broke up with him and felt horrible about it, but we weren't right for each other. We had been friends before we dated, and we didn't want to lose the friendship. I knew he wanted me back, and it wasn't happening. I actually kind of avoided talking to him because of it. I also knew there was someone out there that would be much more suitable for him than I was. Well, just recently he started seeing someone and right away I can tell she is so much more compatible with him. I'm sure you'll find someone that is so much better for you and you'll wonder why you ever cared so much.

 

You send an infantile, chickensh*t email stating you will never, ever, ever talk to that person again and will delete any and all emails or voice mails upon contact without listening or reading!

Of course, you know that's not true!

 

You need to start dating, now. Don't be picky just get out there and start interacting with other girls. Trust me, this will be the best way to get over her. When you're not on a date hang out with your friends.

 

Nail her girlfriends, it's therapeutic!

 

I'd say just do it. It's something that happens naturally anyways. You're more 'busy' from now on...

Always end it with, "I'll talk to you soon." - If you give any kind of reference to timing, then she can and will indirectly hold it again you down the line. Just my experience !

 

There's one way to end it forever...

Post pix of her naked in the BRL and send her a link to the post.

 

That's a start. Also, try to picture it from the other side. What if you had a girl you broke up with e-mailing you and telling you all the things you want to tell her? Wouldn't it make you feel a little smothered and uncomfortable? Trust me, years from now the only thing about this situation that might bother you is how you handled it, but you still can make sure you handle it well and just let her be.

 

Any pictures of the ex

 

Meet up tell her the friendship won't work out {don't tell her your reason as posted in post 1}, be vague, do it in person or just loan her $20 and in a week ask for it back = problem solved.

 

Have you learned nothing from this thread?