Is marriage worth it, financially? (for men only)

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This pretty much sums it up, and is the course I'm taking;
http://www.nomarriage.com/why_foreign_women_are_better.html

 

Alot of women these days are happy being IHP as long as all her needs are met, rent 'em and if one comes along that has a good education, good career, and has never removed her clothes for a monetary donation(in any way)...Just knock her up and whalla you can still have a kid

Hope you can get through and come out ahead, my dad is still going through BS with my step mom over his divorce....Final decree was 6 months ago but she contested the last week and has not quit with the demands and meanness. Blew thought $175k cash in 6 weeks and had to use his cc to pay her rent for a few months till he got wise and cut the acct....I hope I never have to go through the torment of a divorce.

 

Rivee - I am so sorry to hear about what's going on in your life. I wish you strength to get through this ordeal. And I wish you peace afterwards to heal and get over your ex-wife. I hope the courts will find in your favor as you didn't violate the vows of marriage. It was your wife who cheated and served you with divorce papers - I hope the courts will find in your favor and be a bit more lenient on the terms of dissolution.

 

How does it work that your first wife cheated but still won in court?

 

That's harsh

I don't think there can be a happy outcome for you, so I just hope it goes as well as it can do.

Chin up mate

 

Scary to say the least but how would a woman feel if things are going smoothly and you say "I will never marry you". < Good luck with that.

 

like they say, the number one cause of divorce these days is marriage.

 

No, it is too risky for most and only a small percentage can really make it work.(divorce rates prove this) Some men find it unbearable to be alone so they fall into the wrong situations, come up short and repeat until they are financially drained. In future I'd suggest an arrangement where you maintain separate places or forget it. For those that have found the right one and are truly happy, power to you as it's rare.

 

This is so sad. I hope everything works out as best it can.

+100 I've heard the separate places solution before and think it's a good one.

One thing I can tell you, is that over the years, whenever I wasn't living with someone (includes 'now'), I've been a lot healthier.

 

hard to say. Its only worth it if you found the right person.

but no matter what, i won't get married to someone who wouldn't sign a pre-nup, i wouldn't wanna take one cent from my (future) wife, and she ain't gonna get a cent from me if 5hit hit the wall.

problem is the law favours the women, men would always loose to a crying woman in court.

 

wow...just wow.

 

The law will always favor women. No matter what they say about equality, the fact is that P**** rules. Men are hard wired to that. If you feel the need for a pre-nup, You're playing on the wrong court.

 

Divorce really sucks for the husband. My dad has been through 4. I am happily married (AFAIK), but I hope you can come out okay. Get a good attorney and protect what assets you can, be as mean and cheap as you can now, you will be better off later. Try to keep a cool head and do what your nasty attorney recommends.
Sounds like you married a real *****.
BT

 

i believe OJ is out on bail, contact him.......

ps. i would never get married again............

 

I'm sorry this has to happen to you. Best of luck with everything.

As for marriage, why bother with it anymore unless you are spiritual? "Foreign" women become Californian all too easily.

 

I will always think it's complete bull**** that guys always have to hand out half of their ****, as well as pay child support. Specifically when the female is at fault.

How is that just in any way, shape or form?

How did your wife get half of you're equity from your home? Unless laws are different where you live, anything bought, owned prior to marriage should not go to them.

My college roommates dad found his wife of 25 years was cheating on him. Hired a private investigator and had picture proof. Another friend of mine (he, my dad, this mans daughter and myself were the only ones knew all of this, not his son) over heard a guy at the gym talking about having an affair with a lady. They guy mentioned number of kids, street name and just so much info my friend knew it was "the guy".

She even forged his signature to embezzle money out of his personal account. What happens he just gives in to end the marriage and get it over with asap. He loses the house and settles just by getting his tools and the new Tahoe he had just purchased. Thankfully only child support for one of the 3 kids and at the time she was 16, and the other kids were in college.

My point is why should the women who cause the trouble, besides manipulating the kids to think it's dads fault and lying about EVERYTHING get jack? One daughter read through the lies and put all the pieces together.

I should add that she never worked, and he worked long hours and out of town jobs to support the family and give them a ton. Besides always showing a lot of love.

I just get so mad about this topic.

 

I guess, I'm one of the lucky ones. I'm coming up on my 30th. Wouldn't have it any other way.

Dale

 

Marriage is humble and giving. Marriage is a spiritual bond, an act of unselfishness, a giving of one's self to another, and a promise. A husband and wife's love for each other is as meaningful and important as their own existence, and as permanent and selfless as the love a mother has for her child. If this makes no sense to you, or sounds like a fairy tale, or the first impulse in your mind is to deride this statement, then you probably should not ever consider marriage. I think a lot of people, male and female, in the U.S. have never seen or experienced this kind of love in their lives, and have a difficult time believing in the reality of it. But it happens all of the time.

Marriage is a promise, not a contract.

 

Very well put.

My parents are in their 35th(?) year of marriage. I've never really seen them have any crazy arguments. Not in front of me at least. It's a relationship that has to be built on love, trust, respect, compassion, and compromise.

I know my dad has told me he thought about leaving a number of times, but when it came down to it he didn't. He didn't say why, he just didn't. I left it at that too.

Marriage isn't something that just lasts. It takes effort, a lot of effort. And anyone that's been married for a long time will tell you that. And as you put it Tony, each party has to be unselfish. Everyone these days are so quick to end a marriage after one fight.

I should note, I'm 26 and single. These are things I've heard and observed over the years.