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Check this out: http://www.nytimes.com/2005/10/30/magazine/30feminism.html?ei=5090&en=8d50b0ccea5b798a&ex=1288328400&partner=rssuserland&emc=rss&pagewanted=print Wait 'til you're forty-something then keep your eyes open for some hot slow-eyed senorita housekeeper.
Its different for everybody. I told my self when I was 21 that I won't get married until my 30's. 5 years later, I am married. Today, I can not imagine my life without my wife. Whatever success I have today(busniess or personal) is because of my wife's support. But then I know couples who are married and are just miserable, because they were eager to get married. Bottom line is wait unitl you find the right person. It could be tomorrow or 10 years from now. Don't rush anything, in the mean time just focus on your own life and have fun.
No, it isn't. Marriage is something that should be asked once you have prior approval from various random people that you have never met over the internet. Only the internet has the correct answers, and you, your heart, and all your friends' opinions mean nothing at all. That said, follow what you feel is best. Keeping up with the trends of your friends isn't 'best' nor the proper way of thinking. My mother once said, "if all your friends jumped off a cliff..." Well, I grew up in Houston so that wasn't a problem since it's flat at sea level.
I've said it before: The ideal marriage is one between a deaf man and a blind woman. I've got my end covered. ___ Litmus test and then some: IF you have selective hearing AND she has selective (not nit-picky) vision AND she's good-looking AND stuff with OR without makeup OR clothes AND has lips to die for AND ain't greedy, AND doesn't nag too much, AND she'll help you get rid of any bodies (hypothetically speaking, of course), you'll go to sleep, wake up AND die happy.
Want to get married ehh' Here i'll save you 5 years of b/s. Find the most repulsive woman you can, buy her a house and hand over 1/3 of your paycheck forever. I thought I wanted to get married after dating a girl for 2 1/2 years (I was 23) by the 3 year mark I was 100% over it. You WAY too young to know what you want, and wtf is your rush? If you find a cool chick date her for at least 5 years and make sure you can tolerate her.
I've been dating my girlfriend for over 6 years now, and even at this point I know that marriage has nothing to do with love. I've yet to meet a married couple that has stayed together for love. It is a compromise, and you need to find someone who has enough good qualities that her bad qualities do not make you want to kill her. Years from now, when all the warm fuzzies are long gone, it is your compatibility that keeps you together (plus kids and the threat of 50% going out the door). Think long and hard before you leap, and do not make an emotional decision.
You really have to find the flower in the desert. The girl who's great looks do not come with the usual terrible and selfish attitude. It takes some effort on the guy's part too, taking her out and treating her well instead of sitting on your azz and getting fat. Respect yourself, respect her, respect your union and you will be fine. All this talk about getting married in your mid 30s to some hottie out of college, yeah right. Those are the same falt, bald, glasses totting dorks who are hanging out at the bars and Hooters hoping that the ditsy ones look past their faults and to the charm of their jokes and money. Do they care about IT and Radio Shack guys? Only if they're a ho who is tired of being on her knees and back and wnats some fast cash to go to a trinket store like Charms. Those relationships fade faster than the warm fuzzies at the start of successful, well planned unions. My local FOC brethren can verify my former playboy lifestyle. I had a Ferrari in my mid 20s, H2 to cruise the strip in, clothes that weren't bought at Sears and had some funky name with so many i's at the end it yelled me me me more than any attention whore. I aged in wisdom, knowing what I want and realizing what I had when I found my gal. It is definitely worth it if you find a girl you never tire at looking at, can talk to about anything ( including all your Fk Ups), and who will forgive your daily annoying habbits. It has to be moderatley the same type of tolerance and giving of love and respect for the dude as well. Being married is the best experience of my life by far. More so than graduating with honors from a military academy ( is that hard core enough, ) having a fun hockey spell in college, ( which had its share of dman good dorm parties and girls in fun tank tops saying how they banged on the glass for you, ) and having a killer high rise condo in SW FLA. Today I go home to my wife and that seems much more pure, special, and rewarding than all the experiences in my past. Im not knocking anyone else, but the other claims' of their player life past a certain age are usually going home hoping that the latest Maxim is in the mail or a hot one on Skinemax is on later. Nothing, nothing is better than the real thing as long as you find the best you can, ( in looks and understanding personality, ) and put just a moderate amount into it. RocketBoy
I was never going to get married. Had a relationship once that almost ended in me being A) imprisoned or B) dead. I had 4 or 5 hobbies, plenty of friends, the occasional fling/booty-call ... definitely didn't need marriage. 24 years old, meet a girl I can't take my eyes off. Stay an hour and a half late at work each day just to leave when she leaves so I can offer her a ride home. Lie/cheat/steal/manipulate for MONTHS until I finally get a first date with her. Moved in on the first date. Proposed two weeks later when I was sure I was being rational. Married on the 1 year anniversary of our first date. Been married for 3+ years now ... our first boy in the oven, due March 6th. My wife is an extension of me, I can't imagine life without her. Based on some of the responses on this thread, I can guarantee you we'd make many people sick if they had to watch us. Writing about her right now ... I miss her. Sickening isn't it? I love it. A motorcycle buddy of mine who regrets getting married to no extent, kept trying to convince me not to. A great quote he made, was that you should get married if you WANT to get married, not if "it's time" or "I think she might be the one" or "I can see myself living with this person in 15 years" ... you will KNOW it's time, you will KNOW she is the one, you will BE MISERABLE if this person isn't around 40 years from now ... then you know you to get marriend. I hope it works out for you. Bill in Brooklyn
Bill's got it right, you know when you're ready. Not cause you feel it's the thing to do. A man usually knows when it's time to stop messing around.
As cliched as this sounds: Don't marry someone you can live with, marry someone you can't live without.
Theres no real advise about marriage, just find out what you really want in a woman and the looks is a big plus no matter what people say. I have walk down this road 3 times, the first time at 21 the second at 26 and the third at 29. For the last one I married a girl almost 14 years younger than me and people said it wouldn't last, well we have gone now since early 2000 and not a single argument yet. Both of my first wifes were very pretty and educated just like my third wife, but this time I'm much older and I do like young women so the age thing was very important to me and also the virgin thing was not the priority but it did come with her!!! The only advise is to be open for a divorce at any time and to take that into consideration with your finances, be prepared for hell just in case, you will never know her not even 90%, at 26 you are still young unless you want to have kids young so in case you divorce then you wont have to marry anyone later on and can live the single life for the rest of your life. A big plus is that mariage can save you from hiv or Hep. C, also it will give you kids and when old a loving family around you, but if you don't care about that and you are brave enough to live your old years alone then marriage is way over rated.
2 words Domestic Hell Things change after you get married or even in a relationship, loss of freedom, everything is a joint decision or make it on your own and it has its consequences and no more "strange".
