My mom is getting married AGAIN

Does he run one of those casinos? If yes, then suck it up. J/K Yea, that's a tough one. Hopefully she'll get it right this time. Not much else you can do.

 

Go live with a relative.

 

My mom is kinda the same way and she knows that she'd be better off if she listened to her family about dudes, but hey ... that's amore.

 

get a maternity test

 

lol!!

 

Well, as long as he doesn't turn out to be Chief "Cheatumwife" or Chief "Beatumkids", count yourself lucky.

 

Couple of questions.

1. How old are you? (makes a difference in the answer.)
2. Where's your dad?(also makes a difference.)
3. Do you have a hammer?

Without answers to any of the above, here are some suggestions.

1. Take the hammer and smash the **** out of all of the computers your mom has access to. She clearly is not old enough to be allowed near them.

2. If you're over 18, time to find a roommate, and move out.

3. If you're under 18, and get along with Dad, but Mom has custody, time to consider talking to a lawyer about getting that changed for all of you.

4. If you have younger brothers and/or sisters, you may want to hang around, despite the tough conditions, to make sure they are ok.

5. College coming up soon? That solves most of the problem for you. Pick a school at least 100 miles away. Makes a quick trip home possible, if Mom ir your siblings need you, but it's far enough away that weekend visits are less likely to be required from you at home.

This really sucks over all for you and your sibs. Instability makes for an unhappy home life. Everyone wants security and safety and your Mom is looking for that, apparently in all the wrong places.

Hang tough, any amount of talking you do with your mom is not going to change her opinion, or her actions, just cause more friction and anger.

 

The voice of reason has a Philly accent. Pay close attention to what he says except for #1.

 

if she has lots of boys around is she worth the bikini thread?

 

Yeah, I wasn't quite sure what the hammer was to be used for....

 

I think ur best bet is to sit down with her....even though she most likely wont listen as a woman; get her to understand that ur not happy with this, and at least voice ur dissatisfaction. After this, see all those rules, maybe shell understand that nobody wants to see a man other than their dad in bed with their mom...

 

Concur. I need to know as well but it does seem you may be in high school or even younger simply because each jack-ass's living in has had such an impact on you.

BTW, my mom re-married when I was just graduating from high school. She had been divorced for 5 years, went through a couple of guys and, finally, met a great one. She asked me what I thought with each guy and, luckily for me, considered my responses.

I'm p.o'd and saddened at the same time that you, even though we've never met, must go through this. Above all, keep your head up! Be strong and feel free to post here whenever you feel the need. Everyone needs an outlet and if Ferrarichat does it for you, then great. Thanks for sharing.


Dane

 

hey.

wadda ya meeeeen?

hilly accent??

I am from the SUB-BOIBS of FIL-DEL-FI-A.

GO IGGLES!!! (That's our football team.)

And BTW, the hammer advice isn't really all that bad. Maybe a new password for AOL that she can't crack would be a place to start.

Internet chat rooms and online dating services and the like are dangerous for children, and even more so for some "adults".

DM

 

Learn to say "Ya-ta-hey" (A little Navajo lingo there for the folks in Rio Linda)

This chief isn't really Ward Churchill by any chance?

 

No offense man but your mom sounds kinda kooked out. I know a few women like this in their late 30s and it has never ended up good. You just need to watch out for YOURSELF and realize this is NOT normal behavior. Sometimes the kids are smarter than the parents. You mom has a self-esteem problem.

If you see any drug use or any of these people ever threaten or come after you, get out. I don't care how, just go. I don't know about anyone else here, but this sounds like a volatile situation. I feel for ya bro.

RMX

 

Just checked Andrew's profile. He was born in 1989 so is probably still in high school and has another couple of years until he's technically on his own.

As asked, where's your nearest relative? Dad, etc and how's your relationship with him/her/them?

The hard truth seems to be this from what you've presented. Your mom's loyalty to you seems to have faded and your loyalty can only go so far when her behavior has been as such. Contact a relative, discuss the situation, gather possible courses of action and be prepared to act on them. Your mom is still your mom so I also recommend discussing your most viable course of action with her. Be prepared for an adverse reaction, though, as it will probably not be pretty. You may have to go through some difficult days. Keep your eye on the ball and remind yourself that better days are ahead. Better days are ALWAYS ahead. Make this a learning experience as this WILL make you a better person, husband and father.

Dane

 

lol lol lol, thats something i would say.......

 

Andy..Sorry to hear of your dilema. Your mom probably needs some professional help. She has to understand that the wellbeing of her familiy comes first. Do you have other siblings that can run an intervention on her? She'll be thankful to you in the longrun. Keep us posted.

 

You and Leonard Nimoy!

 

that's because every chick you see is someone you'd like to nail

 

Better get a tetanus booster before you start hammering that old rusty nail of yours, John.

 

LMAO!

 

I'll be blunt.

In response to (2): Your dad can KMA. I can't ever see me saying that to my boy. What a POS thing to do to your own kid.

In response to (4): Have you talked with your brother about possible options? i.e. if things get way out of hand, can you stay with him? How old is he and what does he do?

Have you actually talked with your grandparents about this whole ****-sandwich? If so, did they say you were not welcome with them? If that's the case, they can KMA as well.

Andrew, look to your oldest brother. Keep us posted.

Dane