Poll: Help my buddy-move or stay?

what exactly is the potential downside of moving to be as close to your kids as you can? i don't entirely see the point of the question.

doody.

 

Gunny, It's unclear to me if the daughter is an adult child living on her own, or if daughter is still at home with mom.
If daughter lives alone/seperate, then same street as mom?
Keith

 

i would move closer if it where my daughter. i can understand where hes coming from. as far as the ex wife- post up some pics, lets see if it was worth divorcing............. top please.........

 

If it ain't broke, don't fix it. For every action, there is an equal and opposite action. Magnets repel one another. If the shoe fits, it's ugly.

7 miles is not that far a drive.

A few blocks is too close for comfort for the Ex.

If the Ex reacts by moving further away, then what?

 

My mother had looked at a house in my nhood a few years ago---I told her please dont buy it---love my Mom but 18 years with her was enough. She agreed and never did move...She is 10 min away thats a good distance..

 

No need for 20! No need for 'sir'! 'Quartermaster' relates to a small business (Clinty Wood's 'Hang 'Em Dry' laundromat! 'Fistful Of Quarters'/'A Few Quarters More'...

O.k., at 7 years old, she needs 'dad' as much as possible, that's a no brainer, and is obviously what your friend is thinking--good for him, he has my respect.
However, if your friend relocates too close, it could be uncomfortable--the ex (and your friend) need to be able to move ahead with their lives with a certain level of privacy. Too close, and he could really become a 'fly in the ointment' and aggravate the residual 'hard feelings' from a bad divorce. That would NOT be a good thing for the little girl--she would pick up on those feelings pretty quickly.
I would suggest that your buddy tell the ex what he's thinking--and why--and get some feedback from her before he does anything. Do it through an intermediary if they are still unable to communicate comfortably one-to-one.
One possible spin off benefit from asking the ex what she thinks of his idea could be the opening of a line of communication between them, which would be beneficial to the little girl--which is what it is all about, right?
Good luck to your buddy, I hope something positive comes from his efforts.
Keith

 

If the guy is only 7 miles away now I think there's more to it i.e. possible stalking tendencies?? IMO it seems a little strange that if it was an unfriendly divorce that he'd want to be that close, if only for sanity reasons. How long does it take to drive 7 miles, 10 - 15 mins.?

 

It's seven miles.......not seven states.

He should stay where he is........a little seperation is not a bad thing..........especially from the ex.

 

Stay where he is, 7 miles! he could walk that.

 

agreed

 

What are the terms of the divorce agreement re: child visitation?

I bet he gets certain weekends and has pickup/drop off at specified times.

If he lives close his daughter is not going to be allowed to hop on the bike and ride over to daddy's place anytime she likes.

He should stay where he is. 7 miles is no burden for him to drive and again the daughter is not going to be in a position where she can just drop in and neither is he.

Erich

not divorced but I sat next to a guy at work and listened to waaaay too many phone calls with his ex and his lawyer