School vs a Day at The Gap.

you are, better she spend the day with dad learning something than BSing it away at the joke of a public school system we have. or even better than her deciding to ditch with her friends and do nothing worth while.

 

I'd have concluded the day by saying ... "see, if you want to be able to enjoy a day just for the sake of enjoying it, study and work on your grades, because not any random job allows you such opportunity"

Your wife's right. As usual.

 

Morally, I could see how you were in the wrong. Realistically, I'd say it's fine. She going to college and if so did choose one yet?

BTW, when I read the title I thought there was going to be a debate over what's more important, school or a day shopping for clothes.

 

5 years from now your daughter will remember that day. IMO that is your answer.

+1 for Uro.

 

I'm voting for Uro, but with a couple of assumptions. I assume that your daughter is a responsible person who understands that, even though she may not like parts of school, she still needs to give her best effort. I also assume that she realized that hard work and dedication have allowed you to reach a position in life where you could take her on such an outing. With that being said, I am certain she'll remember this day for the rest of her life.

 

DD.

Gotta say, you were right, but you were VERY wrong.

Great day, one to remember. But your wife's pissed 'casue you don't do that kind of fun stuff with her, right?? Or at least not enough of it.

Go load her in the car, take her for a picnic, feed her a couple glasses on nice wine, it'll all be fine. (Oh, and make sure she knows your daughter didn't get the wine during her drive.)

Although it is possible she's just one of those responsibility weenies who feels kids should go to school all the time. Who knows.

Dave

 

I'm with you Uro. It was clearly a special day and not all learning and relationship-building takes place in school. HS allows days off all the time for field trips, varsity games, band/drama/choral events, whatever. Clearly missing one day is not a big deal or the school wouldn't support those excursions, allow making-up classes and they probably even argue that these kinds of events build a more rounded student. You just added your own educational item to her curricula .

 

You were right.

Missing one day will have zero impact on her academic life.


I spent a beautiful fall morning pheasant hunting with grandfather my junior year in high school. To this day I think of that morning often. Want to guess how often I think about high school classes?

FWIW, my father was the high school administrator at the time and he thought it was a good use of a day as well.

 

Your wife is clearly too conservative in this instance... A one-on-one day spent with your daughter is very special, regardless of any obligations. If she missed an important test or her grades her plummetting, then I'd say you made a poor choice. However, why do I highly doubt that your daughter is on anything but the honor roll and there were any tests of significance while she was out...?

Now had you actually gone to a clothing store as the thread title misleadingly suggests, your wife might very well wield irreproachable rectitude in her disdain for your decision.

PS How come you didn't call me and invite me...? It only takes me 3+ hours to get there...

 

Shocking!

 

Uro,

I just called my wife, and she sides with you also.

Andrew is only 7.5 months old, but I got permission for a 2 "hookie" days per year to do father/son activities! Thanks!

(the pole won't let me vote twice... i guess the server isn't in chicago!... but log another vote in the Uro column.)

Simon

 

Mom's right.


As I agree that HS (and most of life in general) is complete horsesh**, you shouldnt convey that to your kids or they will start to treat every other day the same.

Mom is ALWAYS right, bro.

 

I voted for you, as long as she did not miss a big test or anything else she needed to be in school for.
i don't think anyone on the board or a large portion of the people here skipped a few days of HS and life after HS did it really affedt you. No you move onto college and life is totally different.
High school is a bunch of c**p and everyone knows it

 

When i saw the title to the thread and started to read i thouhgt you took her to get some new slacks and a sweater.............I have to side with you, hs is teh biggest waste of time, ESPECIALLY if public school and she is a senior. if she is on top of her game, she should only have 1-2 classes that actually count, and a bunch of filler. my senior year i took 2 hours of gym everyday!!! a bunch of people i knew thought of hs as "the best time of our lives" bs. its just a slightly better version of prison. taking your daughter out and having a good bonding day is important, and tesching her proper car control is very very important. like it was mentioned before, in 5 years she WILL remember this day, and i bet $1000 she wont remember a single day of hs, just a blur of wasted time......

teacherchat???? i hope you are kidding, shouldn't they be doing something important like, say, TEACHING???

 

My senior year a had drafting for 2 hours, Library aid for half the class then left for co-op @11 went home then to work @3:30. So I kinda skipped out of school everyday, but it was my schedule

 

You didn't do anything wrong imo. More fathers should do the same with their kids because it will make it a little more special than say "just another weekend with my parents."

I remember I skipped half of the days for my classes around the last month of senior year, lol. All my friends finished up their semester at college and I didn't feel like going in class. Still got good grades so no problems. As long as your daughter can maintain grades (which is easy in hs imo), I see absolutely no problems. Glad you two had a fun time.

 

it's only one day out of many; it's probably what she needed. it's too easy to get burnt out on school nowadays since it's so mindless.

 

There were countless days that I missed because of doing stuff with my parents, be it travelling, a family outing, or the like.

My dad always said "Never let your schooling get in the way of your education." My mom seemed to agree. I have travelled more than most kids my age.

I side with Uro!! I'm sure your daughter will never forget that day. You might have even sparked a deeper love for cars/speed.

 

As long as your daughter knows the value of education, you did the right thing. I skipped I don't know how many days of HS and still graduated with a 3.8. Not to shabby, the public HS system is a joke. I can't believe that she told you that she wanted to skip, lol. She probably favors you over her mother now.

 

Let me get this straight.........

One day at school or a memorable day with your father?

Usually there is a gray issue with questions, but this is as black and white as it gets.

You did a great thing with your daughter....


Now, if you want to ask me if you should have told your wife beforehand, that's a different issue.

You did good...... I hope you get chances like this w/ all your daughters.

 

+1 Uro

the reason why it isnt bad, is that 1) its her senior year, and shes getting ready for college. 2) she will remmeber this day, since many fathers wish they could have spent just one whole day with their daughter especially as a senior in high school, since many start to drift away. 3) Shes going to college, and realistically many slowly start to no forget abou ttheir parents, but dont rely on them anymore, so its good that you spent a day with her.

Im a senior in high school and ive had a couple of fun days already, im done mostly for high school now and now only worry about getting accepted, i have enough credits so not doing much.

Its good that you spent time with her, I wish my dad would be able to spend a day with me... Oh well.

 

My parents are the exact same way. My mom freaks out about stuff like that. Adopt me please?

 

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