Should I.......or shouldn't I??? HELP

I was very involved in a previous thread that was similar to this one, although more extreme. It involved a college sophmore whos father was considering letting him take his brand new Modena spider back to college. You cant imagine how many people thought this was OK.The thread was very recent check it out. It was "shes finally here" by udalmia, last post 3/17/04. I dont want to get it started again because it made me crazy. We all want to do whats best for our kids and make them happy, but saying no, and being a parent as opposed to their friend is way too rare today. At my kids high school prom they had a lock in where the kids stayed overnight at a YMCA where they swam and played basketball, etc. All bags were checked for alcohol and drugs, no kids were alllowed to drive, a bus brought them from school to prom. Their were parents at the Y to keep an eye on the kids. They had a great time with no drinking, smoking, snorting or driving, and they were safe. Isnt that what we as parents want for these kids. My son, who was a straight A student at the number 1 high school in NJ and is now at Brown U. totalled our Acura coupe 1 month after getting his license. Luckily he lived to learn. He had told us he never speeds, but that night he let peer pressure get to him. He almost killed himself and a very good friend. This was with no alcohol or drugs involved, just stupidity of youth .He still has nightmares 3 years later. Too many of these stories in my surrounding area, very, very scary. Its about priorities safety vs. nice guy and having to live with oneself if god forbid somthing bad happens. Just my point of view.

 

No problem Tom. I hope it is helpful in your decision process. I know how tough it is.

 

Yeah good eyes. The pic is taken infront of my shore house in OC. If you are nearby just stop by. Also, those buicks are sweet rides.
Erik

Tom, What are you going to do?

 

I would take him out for a few 'lessons' or to get him acquainted with the car. Take him out 3-4 times a few weeks before to get him comfortable..

 

A very wise choice on his part.

 

That's great that you figured out a solution where everyone is happy.
Erik

 

They will probably remember the prom for the rest of their lives for the right reason. I agree. A good choice.

 

Tom,
Good compromise. In the end the girl may be the more memorable part. Hey, you shared the car!!?? I know, Im sick but just because we get old we still feel like we are 18 on the inside

 

The day when a yellow '02 NSX isn't good enough for a high school kid who was already given a new Mustang 'vert is the day our perspectives are warped. No offense, but your son is already in the 1%. I also don't understand the doting parents' continuing correlation of grades with behavior. I was an excellent student and so were most of my "A-crowd" friends. They were also the wildest on the weekends.

 

This is a tuff issue this is how I would handle it. First of all I would call Adam's gril friends parents, to see if they will let her in the car. If they say it is ok. Then I would let him drive the car. But I would go out with him and show him the doo's and don'ts.

Let the car scare him a bit so he will respect it. One other think I am not sure how you drive your car, but you know his friends are going to ask him to burn out. So you might light up the tiers for Adam.

 

No.

Here's why - even with all of his sense and knowledge about the car, he'll still have an urge to lead foot it more than a few times, especially if his friends around, if they are in cars/limos next to him, and there's the possibility of alcohol involved.

I'd say, rent him a very nice car for the night instead... but the 512... hrmmm. =/

 

This is good advice which leans on the Yes. Also, make sure he knows that a car is a living thing - and needs time to warm up.