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  1. s4dustin

    s4dustin F1 Rookie

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    i havent been watching this thread, i will read it all later...but, beyond analysis paralysis......

    realize the worst, hope for the best, and have fun. If it works, it works, if it doesnt.

    I will read the entirety of this thread tonight, i hope this is relevant, but ..


    just enjoy yourself for whatever it is

    best wishes
     
  2. darth550

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    Here's another angle.......

    Nail her best friend. That will definitely get her attention.

    DL
     
  3. nocturne1

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  4. nocturne1

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    The fact that you've known each other for 10 years, and nothing has happened between you yet is the biggest sign that it's not really a date...
     
  5. jptyke

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    Yes and the fact that she asked another girl to come along. Kind of a C*cK block
     
  6. PatrickShim

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    Maybe nail her best friend and ask her to join us? :) (Gosh, I hope her best friend is a girl).


    Okay... here's something I wasn't going to mention here, but there's something you guys need to know... and yes, I'm going to go to hell...

    She was (is) actually married and she's right now going through a divorce. That is one of the reasons why I really didn't go after her until now.

    Yeah, I have an express way ticket to hell. :)
     
  7. Modenafan

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    If she's going through divorce, then she's available, maybe a little vulnerable, but available.
     
  8. de993

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    Ok, you asked for it :)

    Considering the circumstances, going thru a divorce, you have known her for years, etc...

    My advice would be to be honest with her and just flat out tell her that you are interested in her as more than a friend. See what she says.
     
  9. jptyke

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    OH, Big Deal to leave out! She's needs loving there Patrick! Better be the one to get it done!
     
  10. taber

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    Don't fall victim to the rebound !

    All joking aside, I looked into your profile, wow. You are 4 years older than I am, and I thought I was "kind of" accomplished compared to my peers. But DUDE, you have so much going for yourself. Just keep taking what comes to you!
     
  11. JamE55

    JamE55 Karting

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    Maybe one of the best advice offered... :)
     
  12. PatrickShim

    PatrickShim Formula 3

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    Would it be worth risking the friendship?




    Thank you for your kind words. I really believe that the most blessed thing I have are friends, and many of them are friends I got to meet through FerrariChat.com. Thanks guys!
     
  13. CMY

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    #88 CMY, Mar 31, 2005
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    Divorced you say? Here's how I think you should handle this situation..

    Oh yeah, and rent "Swingers" when you get a chance. Good movie to reset your approach to.

    -Chris
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  14. hank sound

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    Hi Patrick,

    She needs healing time and support. If you attempt to create a relationship too early during the healing period, it could all go south. Also, don't let her try to create one with you too soon. It's not healthy, no matter who starts it. I think you should absolutely let her know that you care about "her well being & that you've always thought she was a very cool lady and - - - (this is the important part) - - THAT YOU KNOW SHE NEEDS TIME TO GET THROUGH ALL THIS. Now, this is you, not groping and reaching out to grab her but (butt :) in fact, stepping back yet still being supportive and careing (very attrictive).

    Bottom line is this - - if she's attracted to you, she'll admire and respect your strength and wisdom. If she's not, she'll cherish your friendship. It will be what it will be........ OK, my $20.00 worth. :)

    Isn't LOVE too much? - - Cheers, Hank
     
  15. vincent355

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    Patrick,

    I've been following this. Be yourself, overthinking is the key to losing any girl.



    Oh, and get some new friends. Well, maybe not, you're getting some good tried and tested advice here.

    good luck.
     
  16. vincent355

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    Better to live with remorse than regret. Be careful here though, it's a fine line.
     
  17. CMY

    CMY F1 World Champ

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    I can write a book on this subject but it basically boils down to this sentence. The ones I actually invested time and thought into usually slipped through my fingers while the ones I couldn't care less about would never leave.

    -Chris
     
  18. hank sound

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    Yes CMY, that was my point - - when you chase, they run - - when you run, they chase. It's OK to be interested in the girl at this point in time - - just don't "GET HEAVY". Even the magic of Love doesn't work in an instant - - it takes time. Oops, yes, of course you can fall in love in "AN INSTANT". We're talking about a situation.

    Cheers, Hank
     
  19. PatrickShim

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    I called her to see if she can go to the race this weekend at the California Speedway and she's going to be at Lake Tahoe this weekend. :( (I guess I'll be at the race without a date... I'll be there on Saturday, guys!)

    She is giving some signs that she's interested, but I think I'm now totally reading wrong signs... :)
     
  20. JamE55

    JamE55 Karting

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    Don't think it would be risking it if you asked her and for example she said no. If she's really a true friend she'll probably tell you that yes she's interested or if she said no then hopefully she'll just tell you that you guys are still friends. Also if you don't ask her you'll be forever wondering what could and would've happened. Just my 2 cents.
    And what signs might those be? :D
     
  21. darth550

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    True. All it took was one of those potentially regrettable situations to change my MO forever.

    Now, I ALWAYS go for it!

    DL
     
  22. vincent355

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    Like: "Honey, will you marry me? AGAIN?" :)
     
  23. darth550

    darth550 Six Time F1 World Champ
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    VIIIIIIIIIINCE!

    I figured this would happen. I'm glad it was you! ;)

    I was thinking outside of the box!! :D:D:D:D:D

    DL
     
  24. PatrickShim

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    I think I am going to give it a couple of months, give her the love and support, then ask.

    I totally agree with Hank about her needs right now. I don't want to give her additional stress by asking her out... but at the same time, I don't want to lose her to another jerk.

    Good idea?


    When men are in love, even if they say "f#$% off" or "drop dead", we hear it as "i love you". :)




    The view count on this thread is now passing 2,000, and I'm worried if at least one of the viewers know her... (or is her).

    If you know her PM me. :)
     
  25. PatrickShim

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    #100 PatrickShim, Apr 4, 2005
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    The book arrived and I'm still wondering if I should or should not give her the book....

    Deborah Norville was so nice... she signed and added a note of encouragement for her.
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