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Discussion in 'Other Off Topic Forum' started by TestShoot, Sep 16, 2005.

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  1. TestShoot

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    Making friends

    by Michele Elliot


    Richard, 11 "I want to make friends, but I don't know how. In my last school I was bullied and kicked around and didn't have any friend. The kids at this school seems to be OK, but I just know I'll do something wrong. Help."


    Funny, isn't it, that we just think everyone knows how to make friends. A lot of people don't and I have even found that some bullies end up bullying because they don't know what to do either. Then they get stuck with the label of bully and don't know how to change.


    Perhaps the best way to think about making friends is to decide what makes a friend. I asked a group of 13 year old boys and girls to come up with a list of what they liked about their friends. They said that good friends:
    show an interest in what people do

    are good at giving compliments without going overboard
    go around with a pleasant expression on their face
    laugh at people's jokes
    are kind
    ask, not demand, to join in
    offer to help others with work or carry things
    invite people to do something
    hang around places where other students are
    are welcoming to new students
    are good at thinking of something interesting to do
    are willing to share

    are humorous and tell jokes
    are fair
    are good at organising games or activities

    How not to make friends
    I then asked the students to think about ways NOT to make friends. They thought that doing the following would turn people off:

    being bossy
    telling others how to play
    telling others they are doing things wrong
    talking about yourself all the time
    being mean
    talking about other students behind their backs
    being negative and sarcastic
    being too intense or serious all the time
    bragging
    moaning all the time
    being a bully
    claiming credit for something you didn't do
    lying or cheating

    Looking at what the students said, let's answer Richard's question.

    I think that Richard's problems stem from the time he was bullied. He has lost his confidence to make and keep friends.
    Not having friends is very difficult . You can imagine the lonely feelings when you have no one to sit with at lunch or play with or go to places with on the weekends.
     
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