WIFE ALWAYS *****ES ABOUT MONEY

Not sure what you do or how much you make, or how old you are, how long you've been married, blah blah blah! I've never been divorced, nor do I want to! It's a nasty thing, not speaking for experience. I know a little over half dozen people who went through a divorce! None of them enjoyed it! I have an uncle who just signed off on his divorce last week. She's getting 3 million. Cost him 3 million plus what ever laywer costs or any other costs associated with the divorce. For the most part it costed him his sanity for the time the divorce process was going on!

At the same time, many of those divorced people say it was worth every penny! Who knows. I guess you really need to look at your current situation. I know it's tough to live with her, but can you see yourself without her! Good luck to you!

J

 

i have been married and divorced and married again, i guess im a gluttin for punishment. my first wife was the same way, spend spend and always bi tched about money, well screw that i bailed out !!!! my second wife much different, non materialistic, which is great, BUT, to answer your question i would have seperate accounts and if she wants to spend a bunch make her go out and fet a second or third job !!! no offence dude, sounds like she is pretty bi tchy, i would have bailed by now !! tons of chicks out there !!!! why settle for one if your not happy and she is breaking your stones. last thing i ever want to hear is a nagging woman !!! call OJ.
if your going to get divorced do what i did, start hiding the cash, sell your ferrari to a good friend for a few measley bucks, after the divorce get it all back !! works everytime !!!

 

Is this the only issue that you have? Any kids? Finances are the number one reason people get divorced from what I've been told.

If everything else is good but this is the only issue with her and her with you and no kids, then I'd say you'd need to get into a preemptive position to protect yourself financially. That's what she wants and she'll come after you for $$$.

I've never made a lot but I've been pretty happy through my life especially in comparison to some wealthy friends who've been in the same position you're in. With their wives it wouldn't have mattered how much they made their wives would always want more and more... It's not worth it. If she's looking outside of herself and her marriage for happiness (in material things) then I don't think this will ever stop. You have to either accept it or decide to put an end to it. Unfortunately that may mean ending your marriage.

 

Never been married, so no comment there. But, I gotta ask. Have her spending habits always been the same or is this new?

Since you're considering the single life again I'll relate my friends experience. He was "considering" divorce 10 years ago but put the idea out of his head as he considered it too expensive. She left him last year. In the interim he had gone from having a nice little business that paid the bills(sort of) to having quite a successful small company that he sold for enough to semi-retire on. She took a good portion of that nest egg with her when she left. He now laments that "too expensive" 10 years ago in hindsight would have been a bargain.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

 

From your post I would assume your still young and no kids. Much better to get that first divorce out of the way now before you have to much in assets . She works as a Nurse? Great no need for alimony. She will still try her best to screw you over but that's good as this will make you better prepared for your next marriage with a good Pre-Nup

 

LOL

Rick,

More info please and I'll respond..... FYI, I'm married.

 

how does the saying go...

"A successful man makes money faster than his wife can spend it;
A successful woman marries this man."

 

Uhhh RICK? Seems as though you've got the GREEN to cover her spending habit!

 

Good to see so much wisdom here-now for my .02 worth...Been there, done that, twice. Life is too short to settle for anything other than the best relationship you can participate in. If you are at odds over money and can't resolve it--get out--it only gets worse.

 

Also you are posting this on a forum where many of us have a very expensive hobby with our cars, Do you really think this is the place to learn how to control her spending habits, Cause most of us have given up on that and just hand the cards over to them and suck it up and pay for their pretty little things

 

OWNED

 

Why don't you guys move out of state? I hear the cost of living in GARY, Indiana is quite reasonable!

 

It's not bad...but consider donating to the Green party in Gary as that party is promising huge tax cuts for individuals and small businesses.

 

obviously we only know what you have given us but....this marriage is not going to last.
she does not act like your friend, she does not act like your partner or teammate. she is acting like the enemy. and this is a recipe for fallout at some stage. unless you can change these things now and for ever, you need to be looking at whether this aspect can be lived with and tolerated and balanced out by some other positive, or you need to bail.

 

Why don't you just remind her that she married you knowing (I assume) what you make. And hey, this is a new millenium....why don't you tell her you're pissed she doesn't make enough to buy you an Enzo.

Agree with Ross....

 

Though many people are quick to point out divorce, I don't think that is the best and brightest of ideas. Divorce should be a last course of action and not a first, imho.

I think you need to go to a 3rd party to get a objective view of the situation. Many marriages have other smaller problems, which are hidden behind the finances. The power struggles/no sex/spending habits tend to have deeper causes that may need to be looked at.

Looking at the "bad sex after marriage" and "my wife spends all the $" threads lately, makes me realized that how much a lack of communication exists in our society. As another poster pointed out, finances are one of the biggest problems in marriage. You would think people would talk about sex/$ prior to marriage.

I know people who got married, have different accounts. Each have their own credit cards, thus the finance problems are off the table. Marriages have enough stresses involved already, that you don't need the financial strain.

I would think, that sitting down with your wife,and talking to her about her spending habits, would be the first step. Just make her understand, budget a certain amount. If she doesn't agree and wants to work 3 jobs to pay for her habit, let her. THat is better than her sitting on her behind at home, and spending every dime you make.


Good luck with your situation. Doesn't sound like an easy one.

 

I can't believe I actually agree with you on something!



C.

 

Is this the same guy who was posting he was going out with an old divorced lady last night??

BTW, don't waste your efforts on this thread. Read Darth's, mine, and then Korr's posts.

 

Had that conversation before my marriage, But it was with a hooker at my bachelor party

 

Why is the sky suddenly GREEN today folks?

 

Gary....

I hear you can get more POON there with a Ferrari!

 

My wife never complains about the lack of GREEN in her wallet. She just uses her credit card.

Hey Gary..have an avatar on the house.
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GARY GREEN IN DA HOUSE

WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN, BENAUSTIN ???

 

Floats, Flys or ****s, it's cheaper to rent it.