Dealing with a break up?

You weren't wrong, just inexperienced in the matter. You're going to do well, Chris. Chin up.

 

I don't know if it is that us "more experienced" guys are really that much more experienced, I've only had a couple tough breakups like you describe.

What general life experience brings you is perspective. You realize that the sun is going to come up tomorrow, that there will be more good times to be had in the future, and that in the grand scheme of things it is not the end of the world.

 

Now that you have realized the error of your ways - FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS FULL OF HOLES...


Class is now in Session.

SefacHotRodder - This is your Surprise Pre-MidTerm Exam. The question must be answered correctly in order for you to progress.

Q: A FELLOW F-CHATTER HAS JUST BROKEN UP WITH HIS TOTALLY AWESOME GIRLFRIEND OF ONE WHOLE YEAR - WHAT DO YOU ADVISE YOUR FELLOW F-CHATTER TO DO?

A:

 

Damn you guys are tough! Wheres the love, wheres the poetry? Talk about negative beliefs about women!

 

Roses are red
Violets are blue
Take a hike baby
I'm over you


How's that?

 

It's hardly fair when you give him the answer before asking the question, Wax.

 

Tough Love's all 't is. Jus' tryin' to save the lad from 'imself when 'e's most vuln'rable.

Here's a poem which is most appropriate for the circumstances;

Roses are Red
Violets are Blue
When I beat my Meat
I think of You

 

Ive had 3 or 4 bad breakups. Now I find that after a breakup going whoring for a month or so does wonders for getting over

 

Well Gee Wiz. About 10,000 years of experience offering you their best experiences and recommendations and you JUST NOW F-ing listen? (Shhhhhh. Guys, some Tough Love for the guy).

I have been married three times and you are talking about one WHOLE YEAR!?!?!? Wow. Just WoW! I'm stunned. What, Did she do? Give your goldfish or hamster mouth-to-mouth and save its life? Gosh, Golly. I'm moved. (If she did more than that during your year together, YOU go see someone ........... PLEASE.)

Buddy, just let it go. No matter what your heart feels she is just trying to validate her own self-worth via maintaining contact w/you. Your contact (read: snivelling) just continues to give her that satisfaction of domination over you NO MATTER WHAT WORDS YOU ACTUALLY USE. You must not give her that satisfaction. Not now, maybe in 6-9 months with a new hottie on your arm THEN YOU ARE IN CONTROL. But do not worry, she will likely "slut out" before then just to "one up" you (speaking from VAST experience). If she does, wish her well (WITH A BIG KNOWING SMILE).

So, in a nut shell, just POLITELY IGNOR her, say "Hi," with a smile on your face.

There is a girl out there for you ............... SHE AIN't the ONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You will find "The One" when you least expect her ......... Guaranteed. Likely years from now. If I knew then what I know now, I would have never gotten married before the age of 30. Goodness, did I F-Up some of the best years of my life.

 

Nice post Mark

 

Best advice in the whole thread right here.

 

Good god!

 

dude, you're in college right? In a way, you should be happy that you split up. No commitments, go out with some friends, get some beers in, find a good looking girl, bone her. Repeat next weekend. Job done!

And you should be happy, living in the states, american girls are eeeassy compared to european women!!!

 

I figured an update was in order.


I saw her this morning in class and i was fine. I'm feeling a lot better and have really calmed down emotionally since Tuesday when we broke up. I'm having less "flashbacks" where i realize she won't be there for something we usually do and i get a little choked up. I saw her in class and she was clearly pretty shook up. I was normal and calm about it. She started crying but managed to hold it back. I feel better about the choice we made now and i don't think it will be too much of an issue to be her friend. It is not an option to not see her anyway so i'm glad i was ok about it. It would really get in the way of my schoolwork if we couldn't even see each other. We talked for a bit and exchanged notes (i missed class on Wednesday when i went home Tuesday night) and she didn't go to class last night because she didn't think she was ready to see me. We talked about what we were doing over the weekend and she said she was going to the aquarium tomorrow in Camden and asked if it was ok if she sent me a photo of the penguins since she knows i love them. I said thats fine. She asked me if i would come to a b-day party for one of her roomates in a few weeks and i said ok. She said her roomate asked her if i could come and she (the roomate) wants me to come so i said sure. I may change my mind closer to the time though, who knows.

Overall, i'm doing better. I think i will be bothered when she starts seeing guys but i feel like the same would happen to anyone in my position

As for me, i'm going to lay low for a bit in regards to girls. I don't know which one of us will be first to make a move on someone else but it will probably be her. Girls - as wierd as it sounds - have never really been a priority for me in my life. In all seriousness, i usually get more joy from my hobbies, which probably explains why i've never been with someone else besides her. But this doesn't bother me. I also feel that hooking up with someone else (ESPECIALLY when i'm not over Lena) would be a bad idea. I'm the kind of guy who would regret it and overthink the whole thing and it would just make me feel a lot worse. I'm just going to get back into my hobbies, which i've been neglecting recently and i'm looking forward to getting back to doing things that i love.... cars, photography, guitar etc


I miss her a lot and still love and care about her so much but i feel better knowing this decision was for the best. Who knows, if it was meant to be, maybe our paths will intersect again sometime in the future

 

Just go, you never know what will happen.

But, just take a break if you feel like it. Do other things, someone else will show up later.

 

Yea. I'm reconnecting with some friends from HS from home that i lost touch with and i'm gonna go out and catch up on some photography i've missed

 

me and my ex of 2 1/2 years broke up about 2 months ago... im gettin better but i wake up at night lookin for her in bed.. sucks ass

 

Yea. Thats one of the things i really miss. I would wake up randomly during the night when we were together and it always made me so happy when i looked over and she was there sleeping next to me. She looked so peaceful when she was sleeping

 

Chris, meet us all for Cars and Coffee next Saturday!!! (Yes, the Saturday AFTER Turkey Day.)

Bunch of guys, all sittin' around drinkin' coffee and telling lies to each other. We'll tell you ex GF stories that will turn your hair WHITE!!!

C'mon dude, you gotta do it. Ten sympathetic shoulders to cry on. We'll get you past this. Besides, one of the girls behind the counter is HOT!!

Hope to see you there. PM me if you need location details,

Dave

 

Dave, i'll be there

 

I need to unfriend her on facebook. I'm gonna tell her this weekend probably. Her status is "Lena is I know my role and I play it well" and i'm just overthinking everything which isn't doing me any good

 

Yes, this is called Inner Game

Overthinking kills your game and messes you up

 

Why do that? Just stop reading it.

 

I know

Easier said than done

 

Eh, its easy to stop yourself from going on Facebook.