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Are being Married with Children and Happiness mutually exclusive ?

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  1. WILLIAM H

    WILLIAM H Three Time F1 World Champ

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    I have a friend who has a child with his girlfriend & they live together. he was griping today & is pretty disillusioned. I started thinking and I cant think of 1 of my friends 30-40 who has kids & is married or living with a woman who is happy. Are you happy ? Whats your secret to this puzzle ?
     
  2. Jerrari

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    Will, I was a male whore for a long time, & believe it or not, it gets old. I now have an absolutely awesome wife (married 11.5 years) who is tons of fun, never *****es about anything, always has a smile on her face, makes tons of dough, is very smart and is hot. We have 2 girls (ages 7 & 9) & we have a blast together. Just find the right girl, she's out there believe me.
     
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    BTW, we're both 37.
     
  4. 96impalaSS

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    thast the funniest name for a topic ive ever heard.
     
  5. kenny

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    I think William is having feelings of guilt being an international playboy.... I guess it's whatever you make of it...

    What your friends think doesn't necessarily mean marriage and kids suck... It could just be the circle of friends you choose to hang out with who'd rather not have that kind of responsibility...
     
  6. Chiaro_Slag

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    Has Gary Green Hijacked your account????

    Hehe, j/k

    I am 32 and married (with no kids) and have never been happier. I have only been married a year though. :)
     
  7. GrigioGuy

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    You won't get a straight answer....

    1. Those who think they aren't won't admit it.

    2. Those who think they are don't have another perspective to compare their experience against.

    3. Those who are secretly or overtly convinced They Are Right will just attack you for even asking the question.

    4. Those who are secretly or overtly convinced They Were Wrong will just attack you for reminding them of their decisions.

    The above statements also work for most other question ;)
     
  8. Mojo

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    Meet Dharma at 18 dated for 2 years then lived together for 2 years, Got married, 2 years later had Masen then 3 years later had Parker
    and now 15 years of marrage Im happier than I have ever been.
    Great wife, friend, and companion. Secret, don't know, probably karma.
    Soul mate, ect?
     
  9. WILLIAM H

    WILLIAM H Three Time F1 World Champ

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    No, I'm quite happy being an International Playboy :) Ive thought about having kids but I cant see myself with just 1 woman, I'm just not monogamous. My friend's complaints made me rethink the whole kid thing. Sheesh, Maybe Wacko Jacko wasnt so Wacko for contracting with a woman to give him a child ?

    Finding a sane, happy, sweet woman is hard enough, add in a kid & it becomes geometrically more difficult
     
  10. darth550

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    The other question to ask is:

    What do you most fear....the known, or the unknown?

    I, for one, got my whoring out of my system before I got married (now 4 years and 1 child)!! I am happy that I was lucky enough to find such a quality person (NOT American) with common sense and family values. I think that if I were in the market today, it would be too much trouble to cut through the females of today's expectations and get to the real person...probably have to buy an econobox for dates.

    DL
     
  11. WILLIAM H

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    I always thought if I have kids I'd want to raise them in Europe so they could learn a lot of languages & be immersed in a lot of culture.

    Perhaps I should spend a few months in Barcelona looking for a nice spanish lovely with a nice Villa :)

    But Whoring is SOOOOOO much fun :)
     
  12. JaguarXJ6

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    Interesting subject. Every relationship is different so there is no one answer.

    Tork is right. In time you will find what you are looking for. It took me several years and a lot of patience, but I found the same things in Kathy. She's 28, hot, very smart, going up in the world (CPA/Controller and an Escrow Officer) and eager to please *cough*. She used to sleep around quite a bit. That all changed when she got pregnant and had to start taking responsibility for herself. Her son is now 3.

    We started out as friends because we had a scary amount in common. I knew that when we first met. After getting to know her for the last 6 months, she's the person I want to be with long term. We'll see where it goes, for now, its just pure bliss.

    Sunny
     
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    Yeah, Waking up smelling of smoke, stale booze, lighter in the wallet with an alien asleep next to you who just won't vanish before it wakes up and speaks (no matter how hard you wish)!

    Sorry, I'm an old fart!

    DL
     
  14. WILLIAM H

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    Ah but thats cus you were doing it all wrong. I'm talking about time in Buenos Aires, Rio, Barcelona, Ibiza, Miami, Germany where the party is ON & the girlies are Smoking. I guess I'm addicted to Whoring, beats crack, LOL Freudian slip :)

    I just cant see myself having sex with only 1 woman for the rest of my life, Yuck. Well I have a few more years to figure out how to solve this puzzle
     
  15. JaguarXJ6

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    Then why bother to ask the question at all? ;) Why deal with all the bull****, likes and dislikes, issues in the bedroom, and find the one person that does it all for you, and so much more outside of it?

    Whoring is fun, but it gets so much better, IMO.
     
  16. darth550

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    Really! I'll take the Pepsi challenge with any of your so called conquests! :) :)

    DL
     
  17. JaguarXJ6

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    That is the definition of whoring. Maybe you even want them to wake up and have another round before you go your separate ways. The lightness of the wallet is generally fixed vs being with someone long term. And you have some variety. Some people, this is all they need.

    Its never quite the same, though, as having the same woman no less hot, wake up and make you breakfast. A someone you look forward to talking to as much as you do f'ing their brains out. Having them reach for a condom while saying they know you didn't get enough last night. Someone no less successful than you. Those are some of the many reasons why its worth keeping the same person around.

    Sunny
     
  18. darth550

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    Funny you mention that......I thought the Calphalon frying pan was a GREAT Xmas gift!!!! LOL!!!

    DL
     
  19. JaguarXJ6

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    LOL!! ;) I'm headed up to LA now, so I will check back here in a couple of hours. Traffic looks incredible with only 2 accidents and ALL green from Del Mar to Burbank. Tonight is a GOOD night to drive right now if your commuting!

    Sunny
     
  20. darth550

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    I knew I could count on you to see it my way! Now, how can I convince Adriana???

    DL
     
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    We decided to head out in the morning.

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  22. WILLIAM H

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    I'm going to be 40 in Jan, I think i should wrap up my whoring before I hit 50 so its time to start thinking about family. Good thing I have a few more years of La Vida Loca :)

    My friends problems got me thinking. its a serious issue & deserves serious planning so you could say I'm asking to test the waters
     
  23. darth550

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    Aww hell! It's JUST a new years eve...coupled with turning 40 thing?? You'll be fine by President's day! Meantime, Break Wilt Chamberlain's record!!

    DL

    PS. This is my 1000th post! I'm SOMEBODY!!
     
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    darth - Congrats on joining the *K.0. Club.*
    WH - Deepest sympathies on joining the *Dreading turning 4-0 in a month Club.*

    I dreaded turning 40 more than anything. After I got to the top, the view was incredible!

    As for the Topic of this thread: Absolutely Yes and No.
     
  25. JaguarXJ6

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    Hmmm.. you go first. Then its her turn and before she knows it, it will be her turn 10 times before you make breakfast. Or you can... err maybe alternate? Nah. Do it first, then make her do it lol

    Sunny
     

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